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The Sleep Mama – Modern Day (S)Hero for New Mommies

There is not enough to be said about this beautiful boss babe. A wife, entrepreneur and mother to twins, we just don’t know how she finds time to do it all. She definitely equates her balance of life to SLEEP, but how is someone who is a full-time mom, wife, and entrepreneur so passionate about sleep?

Kylie has saved thousands of new mommies (and babies) with her programs! These programs not only guide you to become a well-rested, caring and responsive parent but helps you foster the art of good sleep and how that matters for our overall health and emotional state. In today’s interview, she tells all about where The Sleep Mama started, the most common struggles she sees new moms facing, and how to be a more conscious parent.

Ladies, meet The Sleep Mama!

TLC: How did you get started on this mission to save mommies and babies one sleep at a time?

KC: It all began because we needed sleep, our beautiful twin boys were not the greatest at sleeping and we soon became super fatigued. Originally our knowledge was going to be for ourselves only, but the relief we felt once the boys began sleeping was immense and I knew I had to help as many families as I could.

TLC: What’s one thing you think most mommies struggle with?

KC: I think mothers and fathers both struggle with their “new identity” as parents. It’s hard becoming a mother and a father, and everything that goes along with it. Getting comfortable and into a rhythm of parenting can take time.

TLC: You mentioned a while ago on our snap about how you see parents getting frustrated with their kids without understanding them. What are 3 tips you would give to be more of a conscious parent?

KC: 

1. Remember a baby and toddler is not a small adult, with an adult brain and experience. They are growing and learning at a rapid rate and they don’t have our life experience or knowledge to process and understand different circumstances or feelings so remember, they are little.

2. Have a goal and vision for how you want to parent. Once you have a clear vision you can define values and actions that align with the vision.

3.  Take time to learn. None of us are born with all the answers, but if there is a particular area of parenting or life you are finding challenging, you can always grow and learn from others.

TLC: What’s the best advice you would give to a Mom expecting twins?

KC: The first few weeks are really hard, take advantage of any help you possibly can. Once the babies are feeding well and you’re feeling settled, it can be a great idea to help your babies sync their sleep to ensure you can have some downtime daily.

TLC: Let’s talk about SLEEP! Why is sleep so important for moms and babies and what is the biggest myth people believe around having a routine?

KC: Sleep is truly the foundation for health and wellness. Without sleep, all areas of our lives are compromised. For a baby, sleep is incredibly valuable as it assists a little one’s brain growth and development. The various states of sleep do various things for a little body and mind such as physical repair and also thought processing.

All parents need quality rest for emotional, mental and physical wellness. We need bucket loads of patience and energy, good rest helps with a clear mind. All parents need quality rest for emotional, mental and physical wellness. We need bucket loads of patience and energy, good rest helps with a clear mind.

Often people are fearful of a routine because they worry it may be too strict. In many cases, routine does the opposite. It opens up more flexibility as it allows parents to plan around their little ones and know when their son or daughter will be happiest, resting, eating etc. Introducing a routine is an entirely personal choice, we include routines within our programs but they are optional.

TLC:  You’re a busy mom & boss babe, how do you find the time to keep the connection alive with Matt?

KC: Luckily Matt’s amazing roster allows us to have a lot of family time. He is a firefighter, so he does 4 days on and 4 days off. It means we can spend ample time as a family, and also steal some alone time as a couple. We are big believers in being fulfilled individuals and a fulfilled couple. We both love learning and growing, we have a lot of common interests so we always have something to talk about. We always make sure we go to bed at the same time together each night and don’t have the tv on in the bedroom ever. The physical connection is important for both of us.

TLC: Who has been your biggest influence in your field?

KC: Our boys inspire me every day to be the best parent I can. Matt also has the most amazing dedicated work ethic, which means I’m always inspired to keep moving forward.

TLC: As you know, we are all about relationships and we truly believe “the relationships you have with yourself, sets the foundation for the relationships you have with others.” As a Mom, a wife, and business owner, how important is it to you to fill your bucket? How do you find time for yourself and what practices do you encourage Moms to do?

KC: Looking after yourself FIRST is the most selfless thing you can do. So many mothers really struggle with this as they feel it’s selfish to do so but truthfully when you give more to yourself you can ASK more of yourself.

I believe in taking care of yourself every day in the small ways, so each day I get up early (4:30/5:00 am) and that is my time to exercise, read, listen to a podcast, check emails, get dressed for the day. It means I have two hours to myself before the boys wake up and the day really begins. That way I can be super present with them as I’ve already taken care of me.

I believe in taking care of yourself every day in the small ways, so each day I get up early (4:30/5:00 am) and that is my time to exercise, read, listen to a podcast, check emails, get dressed for the day. It means I have two hours to myself before the boys wake up and the day really begins. That way I can be super present with them as I’ve already taken care of me.

TLC: Tell us more about the programs The Sleep Mama offers and how parents could benefit!

KC: The sleep mama is a parenting company that specializes in online programs for baby and toddler sleep as well as toddler behavior. We are all about kind parenting and empowering parents, we aim to help families increase their sleep using proven methods and techniques. Our toddler life program provides real strategies and actions, as well information on the why and how of all things toddler… from biting, smacking, meltdowns and so much more. You can view everything we have to offer over at www.thesleepmama.com and every day I share tips and thoughts on Snapchat (thesleepmama) and Instagram (thesleepmama).

TLC: I’ve noticed a common question you get asked is “how do I get my partner to be on the same page with The sleep Mama program steps” How do you answer this question?

KC: This is a tricky one because, at the end of the day, it really is up to each individual and couple to agree to parent as a team. I think if you sit down with your partner and explain the implications broken sleep is having (anxiety, stress, lack of libido, anger etc) and communicate about the importance of making a change and having their support, I am sure a caring partner would be on board. Sometimes too, you need to just lead by example and if it’s important to you, once your partner sees the benefits of more sleep or understanding your toddler, he or she may be more likely to invest time and energy into it.

TLC: If you could make women feel anyway, what would you want them to feel?

KC: Happy! I want women to feel true happiness, with themselves and their lives. I don’t believe happiness is luck, it’s a choice that can be made daily and cultivated.

TLC: What is your guilty pleasure?

KC: Oh, great question! We very rarely watch tv but when we do, it’s a very trashy tv show called “ex on the beach”. It’s terrible but wonderful.

 

 

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About the author

Kristy Petersen

Kristy Petersen

Kristy is a Master of Manifesting! Once something goes on her vision board, she works tirelessly to make it happen. Hence the reason she is TLC’s Content & Relations Manager. As a mother of four from Brisbane Australia, she never gave up on her dream to work with The Ladies Coach and help women from all over the world make their own dreams happen. 

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