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Can You Really Be Friends After A Breakup?

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I always have ladies asking me if it’s actually possible to be FRIENDS with your EX after a breakup. Can breakup friendships actually be a real thing, or is it simply a thing that you see on TV or in movies? If you were successful at being friends to begin with, you probably would still be together today!

Take a look at the friends you currently have in your life, you probably have similar interests; respect for eachother, understanding of eachother, love, AND appreciation. Friendship is truly one of the most beautiful relationships we have in life.

If your relationship had the qualities listed above, but simply lacked intimacy then YES you have the potential to be amazing friends after a breakup. Whenever a relationship ends, it means something wasn’t working. If something wasn’t working, why would you expand energy to a friendship when you could have expanded that energy to SAVING the relationship?

declarationThere is expectation for you to be a “good” friend, AND expectation for your EX to reciprocate being a good friend. Expectation is relationships, and in friendships never end well, because you are setting yourself up for failure. This is usually the main cause of breakups! Someone expects their significant other to act a certain way, or do certain things without letting their partner know. They are setting up the failure, and also their disappointment to happen. Expecting to be friends with an EX is ultimately setting you up for ANOTHER breakup, only this time it will be with a friend.

It’s time to get REAL about what relationships we want to continue, and what relationships serve us. Breakups usually mean an end to a relationship, PERIOD. If you couldn’t sustain the relationship to begin with, the chances of you sustaining it after are very RARE and could leave you feeling STUCK in that relationship.

xoxo

Christal

 

 

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Christal Fuentes

We believe everything we do is a part of a relationship. We’re not just talking about the kissy kissy, boyfriend girlfriend stuff… although we LOVE to talk about that. We’re talking PASSION… which starts from the relationship you have with yourself and ultimately leads to the relationships you have with others.

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