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Is it Ok to Go Through Your Spouse’s Phone?

Do you think it’s ok to go through your spouse’s phone?

Take this poll and let us know what you think!

So many people have mixed thoughts on this. Some say no, some say, “Yes, because my boyfriend should have anything to hide.”

Since I have so many ladies asking me what I think, and you know I’m all about diving deep into behaviors that seem “innocent,” I’m going to tell you what I believe in today’s video.

You are going to be surprised to know what it says about you when you feel the need to check your spouse’s phone.

Now, before you say, “well my (husband, boyfriend or girlfriend) lets me check who’s calling them when it rings,” that is NOT what we are talking about. We are discussing the intentional scrolling you do to make sure someone is on their best behavior.

Today we are going to talk about WHY and WHERE these, seemingly, small behaviors are the standard of our relationships. Like I said before, we are here to shine a light on these actions to see if there is a root issue we can uncover here.

And you know what? I can assure you, there is almost ALWAYS a root issue to uncover the reasons why you feel it’s appropriate to go through your spouse’s phone, but what is it?

Were you betrayed or hurt in the past that is leaving you feeling like you can’t trust your significant other?

Do you have a blueprint of love that you adopted from mom or dad, that keeps you doing what you saw was “successful” in the home?

Do you have a voice inside of your head that tells you, you aren’t enough and you are looking for proof that this voice is true?

Now, these are typical questions we don’t consciously think about but in some way or another, dictate the behaviors that slowly disrupt the state of our relationships.

So, after today’s video, I’d like to know what resonated with you. If you are someone who checks your partner’s phone, what is the REAL reason why you do it? What questions did you uncover that you were unconsciously answering for yourself?

Meaning, what is the underlined fear you are caving into regarding your relationship? COMMENT BELOW! Only when we dive deep can we get clear about where we are and what’s stopping us from feeling how we want to feel within our relationships.

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Christal Fuentes

Christal Fuentes

Christal is the Founder of The Ladies Coach. She lives and BREATHES her belief which is that you can’t find fulfillment in life WITHOUT mastering the art of relationships!

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6 Comments

  • I just love how you explain your point of view so clearly that it is thoroughly absorbed and understood easily. What you said is totally right in my opinion. It all lies within trusting ourselves first-hand. Thank you Crystal. Keep on doing what you amazingly do. xxx

  • I voted yes it’s okay, but that’s only because I have been betrayed by my current partner, and feel the need to “check up” on him every now and then. Deep down I know it’s not the right thing to do, but I guess as you said, the trust isn’t there and it was my choice to stay with him. But with each week passes and I feel less of a need to look at the phone.. which I believe is the start of our foundation rebuilding. Thanks for the video, always love listening to your advice xx

    • Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us. Like I said in today’s lesson, the choice to stay with someone after they have betrayed you is a CHOICE and you are just as responsible for the rehabilitation of that relationship as they are. Which means, you have to let go and trust if you are going to heal this relationship. XO

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