We all have insecurities! I do, you do, your mailman does, the barista at Starbucks does and even the models you see in magazines.
But it’s not our insecurities that are the problem, but rather how we manage them- or don’t manage for that matter. Don’t let your perceived flaws weigh you down and prevent you from achieving great things in the world.
Here are my quick tips on how to deal with your insecurities and welcome them with open arms:
1. Sit with your imperfections.
The more you ignore or avoid your insecurities, the harder the punch feels when you face it head on. By getting familiar and getting to know your insecurities, the easier it becomes to accept them as part of your “package.”
2. Remember: We’re all struggling with something.
While you struggle with the extra junk in your trunk, your neighbor is struggling with their over emotional self. You’re not alone. And even models and celebrities, people that you might consider perfection, have their insecurities as well.
3. People don’t care about your insecurities nearly as much as you think they do.
They’re way too concerned with their own.
4. Focus on all the things you love about yourself.
Pinpoint your favorite traits and attributes and shift your focus on accentuating those.
5. Learn to laugh it. Loving yourself means learning to laugh at yourself.
A little self-deprecation can create a much lighter + playful environment. As you practice authenticity, flaws and all, notice how your relationships with other people deepen.
6. It’s only a flaw if you believe it is.
Your flaws don’t make you unlovable or unworthy, it’s your thinking about your flaws that cause you to feel unlovable or unworthy. For example, somebody with the same 6’2” thinks it’s fantastic and struts like a model while you think it’s terrible and will never get a date. Same asset, different mindset. You may not be able to change something about yourself, but you can always change your perspective.
7. Change it.
Sometimes you can change it. If it’s a personality trait that you’re not crazy about it, you can take steps to better it. For example, you know you’re needy, but you want to work on being more independent. Awesome! As far as physical insecurities, I’m not saying run out and get bigger boobs, but if you’re considering it, just make sure you’re doing it for the right reasons.
With gratitude and much love,