Do you think it’s ok to go through your spouse’s phone?
So many people have mixed thoughts on this. Some say no, some say, “Yes, because my boyfriend should have anything to hide.”
Since I have so many ladies asking me what I think, and you know I’m all about diving deep into behaviors that seem “innocent,” I’m going to tell you what I believe in today’s video.
You are going to be surprised to know what it says about you when you feel the need to check your spouse’s phone.
Now, before you say, “well my (husband, boyfriend or girlfriend) lets me check who’s calling them when it rings,” that is NOT what we are talking about. We are discussing the intentional scrolling you do to make sure someone is on their best behavior.
Today we are going to talk about WHY and WHERE these, seemingly, small behaviors are the standard of our relationships. Like I said before, we are here to shine a light on these actions to see if there is a root issue we can uncover here.
And you know what? I can assure you, there is almost ALWAYS a root issue to uncover the reasons why you feel it’s appropriate to go through your spouse’s phone, but what is it?
Were you betrayed or hurt in the past that is leaving you feeling like you can’t trust your significant other?
Do you have a blueprint of love that you adopted from mom or dad, that keeps you doing what you saw was “successful” in the home?
Do you have a voice inside of your head that tells you, you aren’t enough and you are looking for proof that this voice is true?
Now, these are typical questions we don’t consciously think about but in some way or another, dictate the behaviors that slowly disrupt the state of our relationships.
So, after today’s video, I’d like to know what resonated with you. If you are someone who checks your partner’s phone, what is the REAL reason why you do it? What questions did you uncover that you were unconsciously answering for yourself?