Are you a person who has ever doubted good relationships and catch yourself saying close to the following? “Well, not everyone can have great relationships, you’re just lucky I guess.”

First of all, don’t be that person, and secondly, let me tell you why luck has almost nothing to do with the success of a relationship or anything for that matter. Ok, so I’m in a beautiful relationship with a professional poker player. And although poker is a very strategic and analytical game, no professional player would ever deny the power of luck…

But if we are talking about how much luck is represented in a lifetime play, the truth is… luck only represents about 5%!
Now, of course, this percentage changes depending on what we talk about, whether we are talking about luck per “hand,” per “game,” etc.…

But how much does LUCK REALLY play into our relationships?

According to INC.com “Luck has been studied by psychologists who found that people who consider themselves lucky have a distinct set of habits and attitudes that distinguish them from those who consider themselves unlucky.”

http://www.inc.com/lewis-schiff/success-make-your-own-luck.html

Of course, INC.com wasn’t talking about “relationships” but the truth is, your habits and attitude play a huge role in obtaining anything you truly want in life. For me personally, I didn’t feel luck was on my side at all when it had to do with relationships. I mean I struggled with relationships my whole life!

I seriously used to be so angry at life when I was younger, for putting me in such an unlucky environment. When you’re a kid, your whole life is about relationships! Your parents or family are usually your first major influence of life right? Where do you think we get all of our stories, beliefs, and sometimes baggage?

Our family!

When I was young my bad relationships started with my mom (by the way we are good now). It was so hard for her being a young mom, that I had to literally be an adult at the age of five raising my sister. The relationships didn’t stop there, I then went to school for a series of toxic relationships… Because kids can be so mean…

Then I went into my first relationship and oh boy! Weren’t we the perfect disaster?… Oh, jobs? … fail!  Then a couple more intimate relationships and I was seriously going to stop dating forever!

Until this one “lucky” relationship that everyone sees as a success, which couldn’t be farther from the truth. Let me tell you about this beautiful relationship I have and trust me, I hit the jackpot with this man, but I do have something to say about this:

When I think back to all my “unlucky” relationships, they weren’t really “unlucky.” They were the preparation I needed in order for me to really value what I have. Because of those relationships (which I will tell you a little more in-depth later), they are the reasons I am so passionate about inspiring you all with your relationships.

So I’d say in my life, LUCK was a “result” of these three things:

1. Experience:

You’ve got to live and learn; which also means putting yourself out there and taking chances.

2. Preparation:

You have to be clear about what you want and most importantly… who do you have to be in order to have that?

3. Appreciation:

You need to appreciate those “unlucky” moments to truly know when you are in luck! Am I a lucky in love? Yes, I am! But I was also unlucky and thank goodness for that!

Now go out there and make your OWN luck!

XO,
Christal