We are finally getting to one of the most requested topics plaguing relationships today, In-laws. Honestly, over the past year I’ve had SOOO many people email, message, snap, text (ok… maybe not text but ya’ll would’ve if you could) about how frustrating it is to be in a relationship with a beautiful partner, but don’t know how to deal with your in-laws.
Not struggle like, “Oh my mom-in-law is the sweetest, but she always wants to be around…”
It’s like…
“How do I deal with a father in law who is constantly rude or just ignores me at family functions or visits.”
“How do you cope with family functions when you don’t get along with your sister-in-law.”
“My mother-in-law always has something to say about the way I parent that I just can’t deal!…”
Not so cute right? I couldn’t imagine not being close to my in-laws. It’s really a hard spot to be in because you love your partner and family is pretty important.
In today’s video, I am going to give you five ways for how to deal with in-laws that don’t like you.
But first, there are two things you most definitely should NOT do when it comes to dealing with in-laws.
1. Attack back – NEVER attack your in-laws back; this just puts you and your spouse in a worse spot. Not to mention, you might even regret your behavior later.
2. Give your spouse an ultimatum – Threats are the most significant relationship killers. Giving your spouse an ultimatum is a THREAT ladies, yet, people doing it all the time.
Now, since you can’t attack back or give your spouse an ultimatum, what can you do? That’s exactly what we talk about in today’s video.
But there are two additional tips that I didn’t mention in today’s video which are:
1. DON’T HOLD A GRUDGE
2. ACTIVATE A “TIME-OUT” CARD
Let’s just say, you followed all the tips I mentioned in the video and you started to see the relationship with your in-laws change for the better. Don’t continue holding onto the things they did in the past. That will almost definitely set you all back. If your in-laws are getting better around you and your relationship is blossoming. Let go of the past hurts! It’s not worth holding a grudge.
BUT, what if NOTHING changes? That’s where this little thing called a “Time-out” card would do you justice. A time-out card is for anyone who doesn’t know how to behave around you. It’s a card that says, “I love, value and respect you, but I’m gonna have to escort you out of my life until you know how to behave.”
Trust me; it does WONDERS. Also, make sure you check out a past video I did on how to deal with difficult family members. I just want to give you all the resources necessary to handle family members that make it hard!
Do you have any tips for how to deal with in-laws that are difficult? Comment below!
Tabitha SAYS:
I’m on a Time Out Card currently with my MIL. She’s not outwardly mean, it’s the under the breath things meant for me to hear only or her letting me talk to her for a full 5-10 minutes without participating in the conversation and getting an eye roll as she walks away. Since my partner doesn’t see this actively happening, because she’s purposely acting differently in front of him than just the two of us, him stepping in has proved difficult. So we talked about me taking the Time Out Card until things change or I’m a little stronger and can not feel obligated to initiate communication with her at family functions. Great video!