Have you ever felt the razor-sharp glare of PMS shooting out of your eyeballs directed straight towards your partner, who you’re sure you want to break up with right that instant? Or the co-worker or friend who just can’t seem to get it together? Not surprisingly, for myself and many women – it happens every month like clockwork, just before your period. So instead of breaking up (or worse), there are steps you can take to channel this powerful and potentially destructive energy.
If you’ve ever heard of the Indian Goddess Kali, you’ll understand what I mean about the danger of keeping the energy of pre-menstruation unchecked. That’s why I’d like to share my favorite Moon Goddess secret to channel the power and potential of the pre-menstrual energy. Let the Enchantress guide you out of PMS chaos and into balance. Instead of trying to push away that not-so-good feeling and tell yourself it’s all in your head, stop to listen and pay attention.
You see the reason we generally feel at odds premenstrually is actually our inner Enchantress asking us to look at what’s not working in our lives. When we resist, it shows up as the dreaded PMS.
Here’s how to choose pre-menstrual empowerment over victimization:
Take out a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle of the page – 1 line horizontally and 1 line vertically (like a cross) so you have 4 quadrants.
Personally, I prefer to turn the paper on its side in the landscape orientation so I have more space.
In the four quadrants write down the following headings:
My beliefs (or behaviors)
My work (or money)
Within each quadrant answer these two questions:
- What am I ready to change?
- What am I afraid to change?
Start with the quadrant that feels most ripe so the answers flow onto your page. Take your time to fill in your responses. Answer honestly.
See if you can list 3 ways you’re ready to change and 3 ways you’re afraid to change in each box.
I guarantee your experience of PMS will transform radically by simply taking the time out to ask yourself:
- What’s wrong?
- what can I do about it?
Bonus Practice: Create affirmations to support the change you want to see.
When you’re finished writing out all the ways you’re ready to change and all the ways you’re afraid to change, get quiet and read what you’ve written.
Let it all sink in. Then take out a fresh piece of paper and start writing affirmations to support the changes you’re ready to make and affirmations to reduce the fear where you’re afraid.
For example, I know I can be judgmental and critical and the feeling I get in my body is rigidity. So in my beliefs/ behaviors box, I wrote: “I’m ready to soften in my interactions.” When I pause to give this some more thought the affirmation that comes to me is: “I’m ready to soften how I see and interact with the world and people around me. I now practice seeing all through loving eyes.”
On the ‘afraid to change’ side of the box I wrote, “I’m still afraid to communicate vulnerably.” I really want to communicate my feelings and needs honestly so the affirmation I come up with is: “May I feel safe enough and held enough to share my feelings and needs without aggression and anger.”
Going through this exercise is extremely empowering because I’m no longer giving away my power unconsciously to the places that feel ‘out of control’ in my life but I’m taking my power back which is the gift the Enchantress is trying to give me. And remember, you’re not psycho, you’re cyclical. Period.
PMS is not a natural part of your cycle, it’s a result of fighting against the flow of your feminine energy.
When you resist the natural flow of progesterone to turn inward because you’re fighting to stay in the outward, action-oriented energy of ovulation you will feel like you’re going crazy. Your body needs you to slow down and get in touch with your deepest truths because that’s where your feminine power lies pre-menstrually. So give yourself a break and breathe. Let the Enchantress liberate you from the cycle of PMS. Reflect on what’s not working in your life and support yourself to make the changes you want to see and be.
You’ll transform your experience of PMS forever and for the better.