Christal and Chrissy discuss key distinctions of whether you are settling in relationship – How to understand your core values and find a partner thats a good fit – is it a dealbreaker if your partner never wants to get married? – Going back to your EX, can people change?
If someone were to ask me, “what’s one thing plaguing relationships today?” I would respond with, “PEOPLE SETTLING!”
Unfortunately, too many relationships land on the scale of settling. But settling in relationships, is settling in life. The quality of your life is a direct reflection of your relationships.
When you feel fulfilled in your intimate relationship, that trickles down in every facet of your life. But how do we know if we’re settling?
In today’s episode, Chrissy and I discuss this topic in depth and answer some questions from our fellow babes. Chrissy was even able to get some of her questions answered…
“If you get back with an EX, does that mean you’re settling? Or can people change?”
The extent of today’s conversation is on values because I truly believe values are what dictate our life and relationships. I will even give you a practice on how to paint mental pictures to discover your life values.
If you don’t know what you value in life you will constantly be in seeking mode, fitting a square peg in a round hole because you don’t know what’s important to you.
Most of the times though, we believe what we value doesn’t “sound” right and/or might even be too shallow, but babe, the sooner you dissect what you naturally gravitate to the better you will be at either, terminating what isn’t right for you, or expanding the current relationship you are in.
Below this article you will find a values list you can print out or save in any which way you please. Go through this list and highlight values that stand out. I encourage you to do the exercise Chrissy and I played out in today’s session to see what values are important to you that you could be neglecting.
So, let’s get into it shall we?
7 Signs you are most definitely settling in your relationship:
1. Neglected Values:
You don’t know what you value and you become a chameleon of someone else’s desires and needs at the the sacrifice of your own happiness.
2. Potential Projection:
You’re in a relationship with an illusion of your partners “potential” rather than who they are showing up as currently.
3. Power Inequality:
You don’t feel like an equal in the relationship, or you don’t look at your partner like an equal.
4. Fear and Inadequacy:
You stay with someone because you’re afraid there’s nothing better out there.
5. Believing “Struggling” is a Badge of Honor:
You believe relationships are meant to be “hard” so you do more working on the relationship then HAVING a relationship
6. You Constantly Vent About Your Partner:
They are the one you tend to vent about most. You don’t trust them to discuss your wants and needs in a relationship so you discuss it with people who have nothing to do with the solution.
7. If you think your setting…. you are settling.