QUESTION:

“How do I go out more and make friends? I’ve got into a rut of staying home. I’m not meeting people. I lost my job. I’m not into clubbing. I like fitness but I work out at home. I think my mindset is changing but I’m unsure how to get more out there. It’s frustrating when I can’t even afford a cup of coffee. Help!!!”

ANSWER:

With any relationship we want to create, it takes us putting ourself out there. It doesn’t take money, it doesn’t take grand gestures, it takes us being willing to initiate.

If you are wanting to make some friends but you currently don’t leave your house, the good news is, there are TONS of resources around you that you can use without leaving your house. I mean we are in the era of technology.

The fact you emailed me shows you have this beautiful thing called the internet, and that alone is HUGE. You don’t have to go to clubs…

Actually, how can you make friends in clubs? The conversation would be really weak anyway so you don’t have to worry about that.  But back to what I was saying.

There are many ways to make friends in our day in age and here are some tips I’d suggest.

Join online groups!: The internet makes it so easy to put people with the same interests together. Do you like self-help, fitness, health, travel, blogging, art? You name it there are communities with like-minded women. Friendships are all about joint interests and you have access to MILLIONS.

Go to free workshops around you that peaks your interest: Again, go online and search things you’d be interested in learning more about. There are ALWAYS free events and workshops around you. And that is where you can meet a lot of interesting people.

Interact with the social media pages you follow: If you are following TLC on IG, that is a perfect opportunity to comment back some of the fellow ladies who follow and build rapport through that! Comment back, follow other ladies who are interested in the same things, find ways to support them too!

Go to the coffee shop anyway!: You don’t have to have money, you can sit at a cafe with your laptop, while sending out resume’s or while you search for jobs and you can start conversations with people! You never know who’ll meet. And who knows, there might be potential job opportunities.

GET OUT OF YOUR HEAD: This is most important. We get so caught up in our own minds where we can’t see the opportunities around us. What you think is a problem or a setback really isn’t. There are MANY solutions to one problem. It takes you stepping outside of yourself and seeing the resources around you.

As Tony Robbins always says:

“It’s not a lack of resources, its the lack of resourcefulness.”

Get resourceful babe and put yourself out there!