The time has come to, finally, do a TLC Reading Corner review on a life changing book we so often reference. “The 5 Love Languages” by Gary Chapman has helped thousands of people to understand the miscommunication that happens in their intimate relationships.
Communication is not just about how much we “talk” in our relationships. Communication is how we relate to others in our relationships, but so often, we think our way of communicating (relating) is the same as our significant other, and that is so far from the truth. Each of us has our own “love language.” What does that mean?
It means, how I feel loved is different from how you feel loved and what ends up happening is we often show love in our relationships the way we receive it when our partners may not receive it the same way.
In his book “The 5 Love Languages”, Gary talks about 5 specific love languages which are:
1. Words of affirmation
2. Acts of service
3. Receiving gifts
4. Quality time
5. Physical touch
To find out what your love language is, take the quiz here: https://www.5lovelanguages.com, then make sure you get the book to go deeper!
Anyways, I found out that I am a mix of two languages.
1. Quality time and
2. Acts of service.
While my man Andrew, is
1. Physical touch and
2. Acts of service.
This was really important to know because then Andrew and I understood what mattered most to each other and are able to express love accordingly.
If you don’t know your partners love language, you can’t possibly be communicating to them in the right ways, and like I always say,
“The breakdown of communication is what breaks most relationships.”
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