In some way shape or form, we are constantly communicating. Communication is all about how we RELATE (Relay information, receive information, express, or connect) In fact, the state of our relationships depend on how we communicate.
But here’s the problem.
HOW we communicate, which… (again)… means how we give and receive information, is in conflict with how OTHERS (especially significant others) give and receive information, and when this happens, it gets in the way of our ability to RELATE which is where the word “relationship” comes from. The ability to RELATE to one another.
Did you also know that the way we relate is how we build trust? You see how this is all ties together? So when there is a breakdown of communication there’s ultimately going to be a breakdown in trust and we can’t have that can we? ESPECIALLY when our intimate relationship is all about trust.
So this is what I often hear from some of my ladies… “I feel like my partner is becoming distant with me and every time I talk to him/her, they shutdown and it’s making me feel alone.”
Now, I personally feel this is a topic that truly requires a few hours… or… a few days even to cover as there are so many dynamics to discuss, but you know I like to do it the hard way and cram in as much as I can 10 seconds at a time!
So, when my girlfriend Ashy Bines asked me to take over her Snapchat this week to discuss the topic that plagues most relationships, it didn’t take me long to be on board (2 seconds to be precise).
Like I said before, I truly believe there are more dynamics to communication and we can literally go all day and night discussing it, I felt the majority of the specific problems I see regarding communication comes down to the differences between how Men communicate vs. Women…
Now, its REALLY important understand that in no way, shape, or form, am I conforming to gender roles, or how “ALL” women and men are. I use he/she to make it easier to understand but I think its more so important to think of it in terms of “Masculine and Feminine energies.”
Not only do ALL relationships play with the polarity of Masculine and Feminine energies, but every single one of us actually embody both energies. With that said, there’s more of a specific energy we lean towards that plays a huge role in the way in which we COMMUNICATE…