3 Powerful Tools to Self Love

3 Powerful Tools to Self Love

by Rosie Rees


Loving yourself isn’t just about writing down affirmations on your mirror, meditating once a day or being your own best friend. There is so much more to ‘self-love’ than this! First of all, let me clear something up. Self-love and putting yourself #1 is not selfish. I repeat NOT selfish. In fact, it’s better for everyone in your life if you love yourself, since:

“You simply can’t fill up someone else’s cup if yours is empty.”

These are three FOUNDATIONAL tools that I have trialed and tested, and have boosted my inner feelings of self-love.

1. Accept Yourself Fully

Self-love stems from total acceptance of who you are as a being, inside and out. It means accepting ALL the pieces of you that you love, and don’t love (yep, that’s your muffin top, your ‘jealous bitch’, your upper lip hairs, your uneven vagina etc.). It’s super easy to love and accept your “good sides”, but not so easy to love and accept the “bad sides” of you.

However, you see, self-love is loving both. Something magical happens when we surrender to our light and dark – we become whole. And when we become whole, that is, nothing needs to be changed, added to or fixed, we are freaking radiant!
Besides, how much sexier is a woman who owns all of who she is?

2. Implement a ‘Daily Sadhana’

Since becoming a Kundalini Yoga teacher I realized the importance of having a daily sadhana, i.e. “practice”. Having a daily practice brings you back to your center and reminds you of your truth. For me, that is that I am a soul having a human experience.
If we don’t have something that we do every day, in complete solitude, we can often forget what’s important in life and become swept up with the busyness of life (interesting that busy-ness also spells out business).

So often we try to seek love (and answers) outside of ourselves, however, a daily sadhana is simply a reminder of the love (and answers) that exist inside you. When we quieten our mind enough with stillness, we become clear, focused, soft and calm. For me personally, I like to change it up between yoga (especially Kundalini Yoga), meditation, walking meditations in nature, chanting/kirtan and self-massage. It can be 5 minutes or two hours – depending on what you have available.

3. Sensuality & Self Pleasure

My go-to word to guide me back to my soft, juicy core is:


When I say and feel the vibration of that word, I feel sensuous. It softens me and brings me back to fluidity and my flow. It’s impossible for me to feel stiff, rigid, angry or pissed off if I feel sensuous. Try it for yourself….Right!? When I embody “sensuous” it can look like anything from self pleasuring with my Crystal Pleasure Wands, wearing my Yoni Egg for the day (check out RosieRees.com/Shop), massaging my breasts with coconut oil, dancing, resting, having a picnic, eating delicious food…and more than anything savouring every single sensual moment with my senses. Sensuality does not only mean sexuality. It embodies ALL your senses. Self-pleasuring is a sure-fire way of self-loving. It is Self Love in action.

To learn more about Self Love and Sexuality from Rosie, head over to RosieRees.com

Rosie Rees

about the author

Rosie Rees

Rosie Rees is a Relationship & Singles Coach for women, men and couples and believes in growth and transformation through vulnerability and courageous self acceptance. Rosie is the founder of The Nude Revolution and teaches Women's Nude Yoga and Couples Nude Yoga workshops all over the world, spreading the message of liberation and body love. She also shares the Yoni Egg and Crystal Pleasure Wand practice with women who want to connect with their Kundalini energy and boost their life-force energy through sexual healing.

Natasha Campbell SAYS:

For such a long time I feel like I haven’t accepted myself or loved myself.. Time to change that and love myself as I should! Thanks for your inspirational video Rosie! 🙂

Kristy Petersen SAYS:

Loved this video! I am good with self pleasure ✨ I used to meditate daily but since studying and Aubrey now older and more active I’ve been missing my daily meditation and I definitely notice a difference. I’m trying to make more time for me so I can be a better version of me for me and my kids.
Self acceptance is HARD… I don’t know if I’ll ever self accept myself… I know I definitely can’t at the moment i have baby weight I want to lose… and just don’t like how I look right now… i wish I did. I try to be grateful for my body and what it’s helped me produce etc
Look forward to seeing more from Rosie. I love yoga, I haven’t been back to a class since having Aubrey, a nude yoga would be so exhilarating however until I can self accept myself I don’t think I’d ever be able to do it.
Kristy xx

Erin SAYS:

Definitely need to accept myself for who I am. It’s very hard. I’m not happy with the way I look or how I am. Practice makes perfect right xx

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