Loving yourself isn’t just about writing down affirmations on your mirror, meditating once a day or being your own best friend. There is so much more to ‘self-love’ than this! First of all, let me clear something up. Self-love and putting yourself #1 is not selfish. I repeat NOT selfish. In fact, it’s better for everyone in your life if you love yourself, since:
“You simply can’t fill up someone else’s cup if yours is empty.”
These are three FOUNDATIONAL tools that I have trialed and tested, and have boosted my inner feelings of self-love.
1. Accept Yourself Fully
Self-love stems from total acceptance of who you are as a being, inside and out. It means accepting ALL the pieces of you that you love, and don’t love (yep, that’s your muffin top, your ‘jealous bitch’, your upper lip hairs, your uneven vagina etc.). It’s super easy to love and accept your “good sides”, but not so easy to love and accept the “bad sides” of you.
However, you see, self-love is loving both. Something magical happens when we surrender to our light and dark – we become whole. And when we become whole, that is, nothing needs to be changed, added to or fixed, we are freaking radiant!
Besides, how much sexier is a woman who owns all of who she is?
2. Implement a ‘Daily Sadhana’
Since becoming a Kundalini Yoga teacher I realized the importance of having a daily sadhana, i.e. “practice”. Having a daily practice brings you back to your center and reminds you of your truth. For me, that is that I am a soul having a human experience.
If we don’t have something that we do every day, in complete solitude, we can often forget what’s important in life and become swept up with the busyness of life (interesting that busy-ness also spells out business).
So often we try to seek love (and answers) outside of ourselves, however, a daily sadhana is simply a reminder of the love (and answers) that exist inside you. When we quieten our mind enough with stillness, we become clear, focused, soft and calm. For me personally, I like to change it up between yoga (especially Kundalini Yoga), meditation, walking meditations in nature, chanting/kirtan and self-massage. It can be 5 minutes or two hours – depending on what you have available.
3. Sensuality & Self Pleasure
My go-to word to guide me back to my soft, juicy core is:
When I say and feel the vibration of that word, I feel sensuous. It softens me and brings me back to fluidity and my flow. It’s impossible for me to feel stiff, rigid, angry or pissed off if I feel sensuous. Try it for yourself….Right!? When I embody “sensuous” it can look like anything from self pleasuring with my Crystal Pleasure Wands, wearing my Yoni Egg for the day (check out RosieRees.com/Shop), massaging my breasts with coconut oil, dancing, resting, having a picnic, eating delicious food…and more than anything savouring every single sensual moment with my senses. Sensuality does not only mean sexuality. It embodies ALL your senses. Self-pleasuring is a sure-fire way of self-loving. It is Self Love in action.
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