How to Be Happy for Someone When You Are Secretly Jealous

How to Be Happy for Someone When You Are Secretly Jealous

by Christal Fuentes

Ok… Tell the truth…

Have you ever wanted to be happy for someone but you just couldn’t get past the resentment you felt about why you haven’t “earned yours” yet?

Maybe you scrolled through social media and felt the “comparisonitis” coming on strong, or maybe your best friend just delivered good news, but you couldn’t help but question why it wasn’t YOU… after all, you deserve it more right?

I think in some way, we’ve all been there but this kind of scarcity mindset is completely damaging to our health.

How? Well, like I always say, our physical health has a lot to do with our emotional state… and when we feel resentful, jealous or envious of another, we cause a lot of grief within and wonder why we walk around feeling anxious which restricts the energy we could give to the things that are most important to us…

More on that a different day, but here are 3 VERY IMPORTANTE tips to remember when you catch yourself feeling less than you deserve.

You may have actually heard this advice in elementary school but I’m bringing it back because I know it will save you a world a grief when any of these limiting emotions come back to haunt you.


You remember this right? We learned to do this in case of a fire but I’m going to tell you how this advice works for any fear-based emotion that comes your way!

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Christal Fuentes

about the author

Christal Fuentes

Christal is the Founder of The Ladies Coach. She lives and breathes her belief which is that you can’t find fulfillment in life without mastering the art of relationships.

Tracey SAYS:

This was great! I love how you’re able to so succinctly identify the root causes of these nagging feelings that plague so many women. For me, it helps demystify my own feelings, which in turn empowers me to get a grip on them. E.g. I’ve always been able to identify when I’ve been jealous, but rather than go deeper to figure out *why* I was jealous, I used to think maybe it was just an inherent part of my personality, that I was a jealous person because I was a weak person (hello cycle of self-hate!).
I just did a quick mental exercise in which I thought of a few times I’ve felt jealous, and you’re spot on — it’s all been fueled by fear: fear that I’d appear less next to the person, fear that I was missing out. It’s unproductive and exhausting. But knowing that it’s fueled by fear also means knowing that it’s within my power to address it, and to change.

    Christal Fuentes SAYS:

    Thank you for watching and sharing your insight with us Tracey! It’s so true, fear will definitely make an abundant world seem scarce. Our job is to acknowledge when that fear comes up and realize the power we hold to switch the fear-based mind to love. XO

Leah SAYS:

So thankful that you are such a wonderful light in this world, you’ve helped me in so many ways and I look forward to growing with you further to become a better person!

    Christal Fuentes SAYS:

    Thank you Leah! It is my pleasure to serve you ladies! XO

Elizah SAYS:

Thanks beautiful Christal! So glad you’re back. I truly appreciate that you spoke to this subject, as I’d asked for your advice recently.

    Christal Fuentes SAYS:

    Thank you Elizah for taking the time to watch XO!

Rose SAYS:

I needed to hear this so bad right now! I hate that unexplainable envy I feel when I should be happy for someone. This has really helped me to self reflect and realise it’s not about them its all about me and the high expectations I hold for myself and the FEAR I create that I won’t meet those expectations. Thank you for sharing, you’re great ????

    Christal Fuentes SAYS:

    Thank you for watching Rose! Yes, it’s hard at times because we so often create goals that we tie to our identity when it should be the other way around. Expectations are a form of control and control is FEAR. It’s not easy to always let go but it is something we have to check constantly! All my love babe! XO

pvibrant SAYS:

Wow!!! I absolutely love you and your wise words!!!! Thank you so much xxx

Katie O'Farrell SAYS:

Christal, I’ve been following you on snapchat a little while now since you took over Ashy Bines snapchat one day. I’ve only just gotten around to diving into the Ladies Coach content so I’m looking forward to much more of your wisdom. I loved and appreciated this article so much as it’s something I’m struggling with at the moment so thank you. “Your blessings are endless.” You have such a beautiful way with words and that quote is one of many I will take with me. Thank you again. Xxx

    Christal Fuentes SAYS:

    Wow! Thank you so much Katie I truly appreciate your comment and so glad our content can help. All my love babe! -Christal

Erin SAYS:

Thank you , your fantastic!! Xx

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