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Can Social Comparison Be a Natural State of Being?

by Loretta Breuning

“Comparison” continues to haunt the happiness of women everywhere. 

But where does comparison come from and could it be possible that comparison is a natural state of the brain?
In today’s video we learn that in nature, mammals evolved social comparison in order to survive in groups. So it’s fascinating to know that your brain is actually designed to compare you to others.

What?! Yup!

Animals that live in groups would get bitten if they reached for a banana or tried mating near the alpha of the pack… and let’s be real… getting bitten is a WAY bigger threat to survival than going without a banana or mating opportunity.

Natural selection builds a brain to constantly compare itself to others and releases cortisol (the bad survival feeling) when you find yourself in the inferior position which motivates you to withdrawal and avoid getting hurt. Now you can see how, in the modern world, all this social comparison is generating a lot of unnecessary cortisol.

It’s a natural impulse, yes. But you can stop it when you know how your brain works.


In the video, Dr. Lorretta Breuning explains that the electricity in your brain flows down the path of least resistance BUT! … You can create a new pathway to give electricity a new place to flow if you repeat this new thought every day for 45 days.

“I build the life I want, and I don’t need to keep score with others.”

Watch this insightful video by Dr. Breuning and let us know what you think in the COMMENTS below!
Enough with the social comparison. Let’s find the good in our own world.

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Loretta Breuning

Dr. Loretta Breuning is Founder of the Inner Mammal Institute and author of Habits of a Happy Brain: Retrain your brain to boost your serotonin, dopamine, oxytocin and endorphin levels. As Professor of Management at California State University, and as a mom, she was not convinced by prevailing views of human motivation. Her search for new information led to studies of the brain chemistry we share with earlier mammals. Then everything made sense, and she began creating resources to help people manage their inner mammal. Her new book is called The Science of Positivity: Stop negative thought patterns by changing your brain chemistry. The Inner Mammal Institute offers books, podcasts, videos, infographics, slide shows, and a training program, to help you make peace with your inner mammal.


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