How to Effectively Activate a "Time-Out" on Someone You Love

by Christal Fuentes

I know one thing is for sure… family drama will never go out of style, because as long as you are living… you might have family, and if you have family, you’ve had SOME kind of family struggle at SOME point in your life and if you don’t… Well… You lie about other things too.

Throughout the years I’ve talked about how important it is to create boundaries in your relationships. Especially for people who seem to lack respect. The only problem is, how do you do that with people you are supposed to be “loyal” to?

A lot of my ladies struggle with this and one of the most common questions I get is, “how can I still love my family but also get them to respect my… (insert filler word) boundaries, wishes, life…?”

Well, you can’t.


Yes, my love. you can’t make anyone do anything! But you can pull the TIME-OUT card. This is seriously the best invention since giving someone the hand or … the emoji middle finger.

In a recent poll we did on Facebook, we asked this question and got mixed results:

I’m curious… What’s YOUR response?

Anyways, since that poll we did a Facebook Live session with two of the most influential people in my life, Zen Rose Garden and we covered every question under the sun regarding family! But something kept lingering… and that was this idea of the TIME-OUT CARD.

So I am here to explain what this card means and how to use it effectively.

As always, please leave your comments below! We LOOOOVE hearing from you!
Christal Fuentes

about the author

Christal Fuentes

Christal is the Founder of The Ladies Coach. She lives and breathes her belief which is that you can’t find fulfillment in life without mastering the art of relationships.

Alexa DePaolo SAYS:

You are amazing! This is exactly what i needed to hear.

    Diedre SAYS:

    Thank you so much ❤

Courtney SAYS:

Can I give my husband a time out? ????

    Christal Fuentes SAYS:

    Absolutely! Hahaha!!! XO

Melissa SAYS:

The whole “mommy dearest” is exactly my situation!

Megan SAYS:

I love that you covered this. I’ve had to pull the time out card on my mom a few times. I love her and we are very close but she doesn’t approve of some of my life choices and shows disrespect at time. The time out doesn’t change how she feels but it dose give me room to breath and make choices that fit my life better. It also helps me distance myself from the situation and see that she is coming from a place of love. I know she wants what’s best for me but her version of what is best doesn’t fit who I am.

Sarah fraser SAYS:

This was a great video, I’m recently going through this with my young sister. She didn’t take it well nor did she understand it, when I gave her a time out card!
Thank you so much for all your amazing advice and wisdom????????

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