In today’s episode, Christal and Chrissy discuss what it means to be attracted to someone outside of your relationship – Is porn disruptive to relationships and how to open up that conversation in your relationship – Vulnerability and how to open yourself up more!
This week we are taking your questions, LIVE! We are so grateful you trust us enough to submit your relationship questions to us. As always, every question remains anonymous and is used with the intention to serve. Know that you are also making a difference for a fellow sister who could be going through the same thing!
Here are the questions we answer in todays episode:
Attraction outside of relationship:
“I am currently in a 7 year relationship. My relationship is great however it lacks the energy we had when we first started dating. I miss that feeling so much but at the same time i am so happy in all other aspects of my relationship. I work with a man and from the minute we met there was this intense energy. Generally we speak about work and there is nothing there however when we get a minute to sit and chat just us there is always this insane chemistry. I would never cheat, he is also married with a family and even if i was given the opportunity to pursue something i wouldn’t.
My question is, is it normal to feel attracted to other people and fantasize about others? Is it possible to recreate/sustain that energy you had with someone when you first met? I feel this is so taboo to discuss and something I’m not comfortable to speak to others about and i would absolutely love your thoughts and opinions”
Pornography in Relationships:
“How do you deal with finding out your husband is masturbating to pornography when alone? We’ve been together for 5 years, engaged for 1 year. Before dating we both were pretty laid back about these topics, could this be where I failed at setting boundaries? He has never been a great communicator and would rather run away from conflict rather than talk things out.
He refuses to talk about this subject, i’m sure he’s embarrassed since I heard it happening, he also has continued to do it after I expressed the way it makes me feel.”
Is he into me or not?
“So I’ve been speaking to/seeing this guy for a while (about a month or so), we’ve hung-out a couple times and when we’re together I get the feeling that he’s into me but when we aren’t together he doesn’t ask to see me, he never compliments me and rarely is flirty but I still get the feeling he does like me. I just want to know whether or not if I should say something to him or if I just jump ship?”
Vulnerability
“I have always found it hard to open up with people about my life and my problems. My entire family was terrible with vulnerability, so that’s just what I grew up with. I want to get better, though. What is your advice to someone who wants to go about starting with this process?”
Resources
Podcast: Porn in Relationships – Is it Good or Bad?
Podcast: Jaiya Ma – What’s Your Erotic Blueprint?
Take the Erotic Blueprint Quiz
Podcast: Who’s Love Would You Lose if You Were Unapologetically Yourself
