How to Be Confident - You Can't Really Be Confident If You Lack This

How to Be Confident – You Can’t Really Be Confident If You Lack This

by Christal Fuentes

Do you want to know what’s the most important key for how to be confident? This past weekend I had the pleasure of attending the Miss USA pageant (invitation by my beautiful girlfriend Farah). It was my first pageant so I didn’t know what to expect and I honestly was more excited that the Backstreet Boys were going to be performing. But as great as the BSB were (yup, I’m back to my teen years) I couldn’t believe the amount of preparation these beautiful women have put in for this event.


Ironically enough, this video was filmed before I went to the Miss USA pageant but the theme and final question of the night was “Confidence and Beauty,”

In fact, their last and final question of the night was, “Define confidently beautiful.”

I was so excited to see the contestants answers because confidence is a struggle for a lot of my dear ladies so I love hearing how other women define it, because I have a very specific belief about it (which I share in today’s video.)

Want to know how the final three contestants answered?

Miss Georgia:

“I know that very well. I use that on Instagram all the time. But being confidently beautiful means knowing who you are, loving yourself for who you are, loving yourself no matter what your flaws are because your flaws are what makes your beautiful.”

Miss Hawaii:

“Confidently beautiful is someone who’s not just beautiful on the outside. It’s someone who cares for everybody. Whether the homeless, the helpless, making other people feel loved and important, humbling yourself is what’s important and I think that is the type of beauty that will last a lifetime.”

Miss District of Columbia:

“To me, confidently beautiful means understanding that it’s not always about your appearance. It’s not always about who you’re around and how they feel you look, where they feel you come from or your economic background. Serving in the military has taught me that being confidently beautiful is about being able to earn respect from people regardless of what you look like. As a woman in the military, people associate beauty with weakness, and they learn very quickly that I’m extremely strong and although I’m small, I’m powerful. Confidently beautiful is being myself and being very happy with who I’ve become.”

All great answers right! Well… as beautiful as these ladies answered, I just have one thing I would’ve added that I feel is actually the MOST important key to being confidently beautiful. In fact, without this key, confidence couldn’t really exist. SERIOUSLY.

Take the time to watch today’s video on how to be confident, and make sure you COMMENT your insights below!

Oh, and by the way, the winner happens to be who I was rooting for the whole time, MISS D.C.!!!!


Do you have any tips on how to be confident? Share them below!

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Christal Fuentes

Christal is the Founder of The Ladies Coach. She lives and breathes her belief which is that you can’t find fulfillment in life without mastering the art of relationships.

Jade Bristow SAYS:

Loved this video!!

    Christal Fuentes SAYS:

    So glad you liked it babe!! <3

Kristy Petersen SAYS:

Loved this, I’m confident.. Although not as confident as I thought after watching this and seeing it explained better! But that’s ok I’m working on it.
P.s you and Alex ???????? make me laugh.
Kristy xx

    Christal Fuentes SAYS:

    Its a work in progress for us all. Trust is so hard but yet, so necessary! I’m so glad you liked the video babe! XOXO!

Morgan SAYS:

I really enjoyed this video! I vote more videos with you and Alex! 🙂

Miget Melissa Miller SAYS:

Hey babe, i follow u on snap and love ur rants and advice, n to be honest i struggle with being confiedent as i dont belive in myself and i dint think im string enough to achive wat j want but with ur help im sure ill get there…
P.s more of u n alex and also tell him we miss him on snap especially when he would over take ashys snap lol

    Christal Fuentes SAYS:

    Haha! Alex is amazing! Confidence is something we all struggle with at times but it’s important to understand that we are absolutely worthy of all the love in the world. Trust is all about love, so find small ways everyday to cater to your love bucket! Thank you for watching XOXO

Sarah SAYS:

Spot on!I notice when I show myself love and trust myself enough to fulfill my passion, I feel and portray confidence.
Yet when I’m filled with self doubt or fear all of that vanishes.
I definitely need to work on trusting myself more and also just give myself a break.
Thanks for your inspirational video, it really spoke to me!

    Christal Fuentes SAYS:

    Thank you for sharing Sarah! It’s so true. When we fully love and accept ourselves confidence will naturally exude. XOXO

Maddisen Gill SAYS:

I absolutely loved this!
Had to pause on the ‘write this shit down’ to explain to my other half how much you and your messages like this have changed my life. 2 years ago I was NOT confident! Why? because I couldn’t hear the tune of my own song, I was too busy trying to be someone else and that is exhausting. It makes your confidence lack so much because you never know if you’re ‘pretending’ the correct way and if people will like you; always looking at their reactions, seeking approval, NEEDING them to like you. On my journey to be ‘fit and healthy’ (lose weight to be skinny and hopefully liked more, by the wrong people) I came across you in the Ashy program and you broke down (there were a lot of tears and doubt) this fake-ness I had built for myself, found the trap door and opened up the real me and MY LORDY LORD did I feel venerable, unsure, exposed. 2 years on not only can I happily and confidently say that I can hear my own heart song but 80% of the time I am dancing to it!
I trust myself, I trust my journey and I love who I am becoming as a person!
So thank you, thank you for helping me dance to my heart song!

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