Are you in a relationship with someone who has done things to hurt you over and over again and now you don’t trust them, but you still want to find some way to fix the relationship?
In today’s Snapchat rant I decided that it was time to have a Real Talk to my ladies about WHY this keeps happening and you’ll be shocked to find out that the problem isn’t your partner.
What?…Yup!
The problem is YOU!
Grab your tea, coffee or glass of wine because we are getting REAL.
Im so glad it could help Rebecca. Do things everyday that fills you up and restores love within. XO
wow i think a lightbulb just went off thank you for this so needed to hear it. I have been constant bad relationships, men who don’t work, live at home with their mum, abusive and controlling then when i move on i find it hard to trust in a relationship after all the hurt and pain i suffer so decided I’m better off on my own i always thought i was the problem something in me was attracting the wrong type of guy ones that don’t want to commit or just after a short thing but after hearing this i think I’ve had a light bulb moment thank you again.
I agree with most part of this video. I agree that you can’t love someone if you don’t love yourself first. I agree that if you are in that kind of relationship, fear plays a huge part and not love. I agree that they are not the ones who are treating you badly, you are the one allowing it..
However, there’s one small thing in the video that I find hard to agree with… just because someone cheated on their previous partner WITH you… does not necessarily mean they will do the same to you. I don’t agree with the “once a cheater always a cheater” that we’ve surely heard a million times. When there is cheating in a relationship, there’s a reason behind it, but it doesnt have to mean that that reason will always be there in future relationships. I agree we can’t change people, it’s not our job, it’s not our life mission, it’s not our sh*t … BUT I do think we CAN be with someone that has previously cheated and has changed. Maybe our paths crossed not because we are following the same patterns (one a cheater and the other a sufferer) but because we are evolving and changing those patterns and it’s finally the time to meet the RIGHT person for that.
I’m not sure I’m making much sense.. haha but I’m finding it hard to express it properly.
Anyways, I watched this video on Snapchat when it was on and it didn’t resonate in any way… today, something clicked inside of me and I wanted to share it.
xx
I absolutely agree with you. This video however, is for the women who are with a spouse that constantly hurts them. Yet, there were clear signs that their significant other cannot give fully to the relationship. If you saw my FB Live session on “Is Cheating Excusable” you would see that I am not for the black and white approach of infidelity. Every situation is different and BOTH partners are responsible for the state of their relationship. I never, and will never believe in the “once a cheater always a cheater” this video however, was not on that subject. Thank you for sharing though and I agree with you. XO
I imagined you were not a believer of that statement because the rest of the video didn’t say anything like that. I think a few words on this video hit a weak spot and I kind of misunderstood the overall message in the end. I didn’t watch the FB live video, I’m sure I would like it..
Thank you for replying and sorry if I was offensive in any way. xx
No apology necessary love! I LOVED that you shared that its so important and I love that you see both sides of infidelity. I was just letting you know I 120% agree with you on that. This video was just a different topic. <3 <3 <3
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Rebecca SAYS:
I really needed to hear this. The guy I’ve been dating has just up and left me without saying a word. I left his house one day three weeks ago with a kiss and a hug and he hasn’t returned my calls or texts since. He didn’t even wish me a happy 30th birthday last week. It’s so hard to deal with the pain when you don’t know what happened. Thank you Christal for your real talk, even though it’s hard to hear I know you are right xx