Breakups are hard. They leave you feeling chaotic, confused, and wondering if you did the right thing, or, if there was something you “could’ve” done. Christal gives you 5 ways to not only cope, but to gain some peace during this tough time.
I think its safe to say, most of us have experienced a breakup at some point right? I think we can also agree, they suck! Regardless if you are the one who did the breaking up, it’s still no easy decision to leave a relationship. I thought it was important that we discusss how to heal from a breakup after we decide to leave.
Right now I am currently in San Diego with my mom. I had the pleasure of sitting down with Lauryn of The Skinny Confidential and her husband for the Him x Her Podcast which was such a treat!
I am so in awe of what this girl has accomplished and how she was able to do it, with style and grace. If you don’t follow them yet, you need to jump on that stat! I promise you will learn so much from their podcast.
But I digress.
Being in San Diego has brought up some pretty crazy memories. Like, did you know I once lived in SD for a few years? I came out here with an ex-boyfriend at the time and what a roller coaster that was. It’s safe to say that was my first and last experience of a toxic relationship. But I can’t completely blame him for that though. What do I always say?
A relationship is a choice TWO people make. So if you are in a toxic relationship, the real question is, why do YOU choose to participate in it?
You ready for a truth bomb?
We stay in relationships we feel treat us BETTER than how we treat ourselves.
I want you to read that again. If you are staying in a toxic relationship, the real toxicity begins with you. So many women ask why it’s so hard to leave a relationship they know isn’t good for them, well, this relationship is ultimately matching what you think you deserve. So if you want the courage to leave babe, you have to raise your standards! We have more resources on that so make sure you check them out.
Now, back to breakups. If you are currently going through the pain of a breakup or know someone who is, please make sure you share this episode with them. I share some things I think will help anyone get clear about what they are actually experiencing.
Did you know most of the pain we feel post-breakup are pretty similar to what an addict experiences when they quit smoking, drinking coffee or alcohol, or even quit drugs?
Oh yes, we are ADDICTED TO OUR RELATIONSHIPS… now that shouldn’t scare you, but I want you to know there’s science behind the extreme emotions we experience when we disconnect with someone we love.
With that said, today I am here to give you five ways that could help ease these emotions a bit and potentially give you a piece of peace.
Let me know what you’ve learned in the comments below, and if you have any other tips have helped you heal from a breakup.
Katie SAYS:
This podcast couldn’t have come at a better time since I am very currently going through a breakup. So I will be implementing those 5 tools tonight and hopefully regain some peace in my currently chaotic situation. On a different note, I know that there are many women out there that suffer through abusive relationships. I know I surely have and I would love to hear some advice on how to regain yourself after being told everyday that your not good enough and being knocked down both physically and mentally. With breakups there are the hardships of losing your partner and losing that connection but when you throw that fear and brainwashing into the mix I feel that it can be a gazillion times harder to believe in yourself and speak out and regain what you have lost. I would love to hear your ideas on this topic even further because I believe that too many women are behind closed doors and feel that they don’t have a voice and are even scared to have a voice and bringing awareness and speaking up is just so important. Keep on empowering women around the world, your doing such a phenomenal job, Thursday’s can’t come fast enough!❤????