1: Know your true value
The greatest love you could ever invest in is the love that you have for yourself. This isn’t about spending money on your physical appearance or becoming arrogant and self- absorbed, but rather knowing your true value as a woman and living your life in accordance to what you are deserving of. The way in which we let people treat us is usually a reflection of how we see and values ourselves, and so often to others (not necessarily ourselves), it becomes quite evident of how much self- love we really have. Once you know your worth you’ll stop giving discounts and start to feel whole and happy even as a singleton.
2: Live a life you love daily
The best thing about life is that the majority of us were born with a choice of how to live it. It’s easy to get caught up in the busyness of everyday routine, we can often feel like we are getting stuck in a rut and waiting for the next opportunity instead of actively seeking it out. However, the only person stopping you from creating a life you actually love is yourself! When you build a life you don’t want to take a holiday from, you will find that daily existence also becomes a joy. Simple steps and choices all work together to form the ideal reality that you really long for, so start today by making better decisions and having an understanding that it is possible to love life every day.
3: Declutter and get organized
When your environment is full of rubbish, turmoil and chaos, it usually reflects that your life, mind and spirit is too. By cleaning out the old you are effectively giving the new permission to enter in. Even if you feel like your head and heart are all over the place, you can at least bring a sense of order to your home and personal space by organising and decluttering the space. It’s amazing how our home and surroundings can really affect our mood, so get rid of anything negative or unnecessary and start creating a new physical foundation to build on which makes you feel at peace, in control and positive.
4: Write a list of what you want
Life and love is difficult enough without us having to wander through it without a clue of where we are actually going! Grab a pen and piece of paper, or a computer and start writing out what it is you want in life! Be honest, get down to the nitty gritty and be specific, this is your life we are talking about after all. The lists I like to write to give myself clarity and a sense of direction are:
- Yearly goals of what I want to achieve
- A list of who I am and what I have to offer to the world
- A list of my dreams and the purpose and passions I have
- A list of the dream relationship I am deserving of
- A list of the dream man I hope to marry!
Don’t limit yourself, write more if you feel the need to, just put them somewhere where you can see them daily and be reminded of what you are waiting, fighting and dreaming for!
5: Learn the difference between compromising and settling
Love isn’t meant to be second rate and hence why you shouldn’t have to settle for second best. We tend to get confused or complacent after a few bad relationships, heartache or years of waiting, and so we forget out value and what we are deserving of. On the opposite hand, when your expectations are so high that you can forget to be flexible and compromise in a healthy way. Know the difference ladies, know your worth and then you will find the balance that you are after.
6: Know when to chase and when to wait.
We live in a fast pace society and often become impatient when things don’t come in our timing. It’s hard to wait for the real thing when we have access to so many other second-rate options along the way (although at the time, we don’t see them as second-rate, but rather an answer to a need we have). Chasing men will get you nowhere, chasing dreams, on the other hand, will see to it that you live in your potential and are filled with purpose. By all means, we need to still initiate things with males (unless we want to die alone with 42 cats) but we also need to know where boundaries need to be set. Sometimes when you put down the good, it’s because you are meant to pick up the great, so don’t be afraid to wait for a little.
7: Nurture what you have.
It’s so important to understand not only your self -worth but also the worth of what good things you have in your life. Relationships take consistent hard work daily and they need to be fed and watered to continue growing healthily. Don’t neglect yourself, your health, your appearance or your partner! Try to be conscious of every decision you make, the words you speak and the actions you make; it’s not easy but the reward will be worth it! When we appreciate and nurture what we have been given (including our own life ) we, in turn, live with more gratitude, joy, and peace.