Is Technology Ruining Relationships?

Is Technology Ruining Relationships?

by Christal Fuentes

Christal gets real about technology and the state of our relationships – what social media addiction really is – why people should chill on bashing millennials – and what we can do to open up our relationships without technology.

I’m not gonna lie, podcasting is hard! For someone who does videos and FB/IG LIVES there’s something about talking to a microphone that can really throw a person off. By thrown off, I mean hitting record THREE times before I was able to flow. Oh technology, you got people doing some crazy things… Speaking of … How crazy is technology really?

I mean, we literally have more power than presidents did 20 years ago! Doesn’t that blow your mind? We are all walking the streets with more power than world leaders did! Yet so often we actually believe we don’t have enough resources to do what we need to do. (insert eye roll) We’ll talk about that another time.

As Uncle Ben so poetically told Spider Man, “with great power comes great responsibility.”

That’s exactly where we are. The balancing act between authentic relationships and technological disruption. The fear that technology is ruining real relationships. As a “relationship coach” you’d assume I’d have the same fear but truthfully, I don’t.

Is technology going to CHANGE relationships? Absolutely.

Is it going to RUIN relationships? FUCK NO.

Relationships = How we RELATE in the world, and that changes based on progression. How we communicate now days is way different from how we communicated 10, 15, 30 years ago… Why, because there are more ways to communicate than face to face. Hell… we communicate and RELATE to our pets don’t we? They don’t even speak our language but we still find a way to connect. Yet we have difficulty accepting the fact that in 2017, there are THOUSANDS of ways to communicate instead of a few.

“Social media is the new addiction”

We are so quick to blame what we are addicted to, versus WHY we are addicted in the first place.
Addiction, in simplest form, is the need to connect. Now, that doesn’t mean we always find healthy ways to fulfill this need but the need itself is not wrong. Social media, Television, Alcohol, Sex, Food etc are not necessarily bad, it’s that people don’t have a strong sense of self that keeps us connecting in unhealthy ways. Again, the focus should be less on WHAT we are addicted to and WHY we are addicted in the first place.

If you’ve followed me for a while, you’d know I talk a lot about getting to the root issues and doing the work that it takes to heal. If you do the work and clear up what it is that’s leaving you attaching to substances, technology, people, food, Housewives (me) then we wouldn’t be so fearful about the new “thing” that’s going to ruin society as we know it.

Hope you enjoy today’s episode and please comment your “ah-has” below!
+ Simon Sinek: Start with Why
+ Millennials in the Workplace
+ Start With Why Book
+ Find Your Why
+ How to be Happy, Open and Trusting

Additional TLC Resources:

+ Social Media Highlight Reels Getting You Down? Maybe You Need a Tech Time-Out!
+ Is Social Media Ruining Your Relationship?
+ Is Social Media Triggering Your Emotional Eating
Christal Fuentes

about the author

Christal Fuentes

Christal is the Founder of The Ladies Coach. She lives and breathes her belief which is that you can’t find fulfillment in life without mastering the art of relationships.


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