LISTEN ON THE GO:
If you read a recent article I did about 2016, you’d know that it was one of the most uncomfortable years for me, and although I wouldn’t say that it was the WORST year, I do understand how people would perceive this to be true.
For me, it was the year of instrumental growth. Like the deepest of deep growths. It opened parts of me I never knew I would be able to tap into. It showed me depths of myself that were necessary for me to access in order for me to expand my mission.
Depths that required me to embrace the darkness in my life.
Eeeek! Sounds scary right? But here’s what I learn to be true.
So many of us are so afraid of the dark that we continue to suppress the emotions that need to surface, then wonder why we sink into an emotional abyss.
As Iyanla Vanzant says,
“You can’t heal what you won’t face.”
Is it possible to do it on your own?… Of course!
But is it better to have people you trust to help you? ABSOLUTELY and there’s no one I trust more with this area than David and Heather, Founders of Zen Rose Garden.
Together, they help people to create pathways between the subconscious and conscious in order for these parts of the mind to be a powerhouse team instead of fighting with one another.
Just in case you are unfamiliar with the roles that the subconscious and conscious mind plays… The subconscious mind is 80-90% of your mind, which controls your habits, beliefs and patterns. The conscious mind is 8-10% of your mind, which controls your daily tasks.
But here’s the thing, we aren’t even AWARE of the 80-90% that controls our lives… That is a HUGE fucking deal ladies because we are staying blindsided from the reasons why we keep experiencing emotional roller coasters, stay in depression, feel anxiety a thigh levels, and or, fear things we have no idea why….
After all, at the root of every negative emotion is FEAR.
In today’s video, we are going to learn:
+ How to ground ourselves in the middle chaos
+ How to begin healing after a traumatic event
+ Where does self-sabotaging behaviors come from
+ What is Depression and Anxiety REALLY?
+ How to experience a natural state of bliss
Here are some questions I have for you! Please COMMENT below:
1. In the video, David references “THE” mind instead of “your” mind or “our” mind. Why do you think that is?
2. What are the 3 things you should do when you find yourself in the middle of a chaotic state?
3. What does Heather say about feeling Peace in our lives?
4. What was an“Ah-ha” you got about Depression and Anxiety?
5. At the end of the video I asked them a question that stumped them! How would you answer?
Dana Murphy SAYS:
My ah-ha was definitely “when you’re ignoring anger, you’re ignoring something that needs to change.” I’ve spent most of the time in all my adult relationships biting my tongue about things that anger me because as a woman, we often get titled “grumpy”, “b*tchy”, “naggy” if we show anger. (In my experience, anyway)
I shouldn’t have to deal with my anger internally and put it in a box in the back of my mind, only to have it explode a couple years down the road when I say “well, you did this thing in 2014 and because I didn’t get angry at it then, here I am having held on to that for 2 years and now lets have a huge fight about it”.
I have trouble with my boyfriend bringing up things that anger me basically because he takes my bringing it up as me initiating a fight, when in reality, I’m trying to deal with it there and then, fix it and move on. The opposite in my mind. How can I get him to approach these conflicts without getting offended and take it like I’m trying to start a fight?
I find myself dwelling on things that I should be long over, because when I brought it up to him, I don’t get the response I’m wanting and needing! Therefore I can’t “close out” the issue. It makes me feel like there are a million little boxes open in my mind flung across a room instead of the issues being solved and dealt with and packed away nicely in a “Open only when trying to learn from Past” box!