The Problem with #RelationshipGoals

by Christal Fuentes

How Christal and Andrew met and why it WASN’T love at first, second or third sight – Why LIKING the person you are with is more important than LOVING them – And what kind of “crazy” is ok in relationships – Also, TEQUILA shots for Christal’s bday! CHEERS!

Happy podcast day and… Happy Birthday to me! I can’t believe I’m 31. This year FLEW by. I honestly couldn’t be more grateful today.

TLC has brought so much joy to my life, and to wake up and be able to do what I love everyday is a blessing. Speaking of blessings… I can’t go without expressing my love and deepest gratitude for my man, Andrew.

PS: it’s his bday too (insert eye roll)

Yup… we are ONE day apart so I have to share my birthday for the rest of my life (bummer) but I get to share it with the most incredible man I could ever ask for (win).

Also, did you know Andrew and I actually met on our birthdays? Before you start with the cute “Awww!” … it DEFINITELY was not love at first sight. Hell. It wasn’t even love at second, third, fourth or fifth sight.

I would have NEVER seen myself with Andrew. In fact, I thought we were on completely different wavelengths (we actually were), but the timing of our life worked out I guess. And what I mean by that is when we started becoming friends, I was simultaneously doing the internal work. Shedding the things that didn’t work for me. Healing the past relationships that left me hurt, and adjusting the filters of which I saw the world and people.

If you read my book, you know EXACTLY what I’m talking about. I didn’t always have my shit together (if I could even say I do now). I was a straight-up HOT MESS… Ironic that my book was called “How to be H.O.T

But the two years I was single before Andrew, really helped me become self-aware. In our first podcast episode, Chrissy and I discussed why being single is an amazing time for that. Embracing single life allows you to lean INTO yourself instead of ON another.

That’s where I was when Andrew and I became friends. I was enjoying who I was. I created standards in my life and my lens was wiped clean, which allowed me to truly see Andrew for who he was. Seven years later… here we are.

Now, before you start saying #relationshipgoals, I want to tell you that, we aren’t.


Yup. We aren’t. In fact. I have a problem with the term “relationship goals” because unless you are “in” that relationship, you have no idea what happens behind closed doors. I also hate the word “GOALS.”

LIKE DESPISE. Because it’s so external. It keeps us in seeking mode instead of creating from a place of truth.
I obviously go deeper about this in today’s episode so be sure to give it a listen and let me know what you think in the comments below!

Thank you for all the love you ladies have shown for the podcast and keep those reviews coming!
Christal Fuentes

about the author

Christal Fuentes

Christal is the Founder of The Ladies Coach. She lives and breathes her belief which is that you can’t find fulfillment in life without mastering the art of relationships.


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