Am I Dating the Right Guy?

by Christal Fuentes

Christal gives you eight questions to ask yourself to tell if who you’re dating is the right guy.

Happy New Year you gorgeous soul you! I am so excited for 2018… I mean, we are excited at the start of every year, right? What is it about starting fresh that gets us so excited and is it possible to press the re-set button ANYTIME, not just on New Years?

I think so. Always remember, if at any moment, life isn’t how you want it to be, you can change it at any time. None-the-less, I’m hyped AF for this new year and what’s to come with TLC.

Doing this podcast for you is a dream, truly. I didn’t know how much fun I’d have, doing this and there are some exciting things to come with this show. But in the meantime, I LOVE getting your topic requests for Talk. Listen. Change.

Every episode is brought to you BY YOU. Seriously, every topic we do is from the questions you ladies have sent us, and WE LOVE IT!

So this week’s topic we thought it’d be appropriate that since 2017 was the year of cleaning house, getting real, and letting go of relationships that don’t serve us, there’s still something we haven’t discussed.

Fuckboys vs Prince Charming.

How do we know if we are dating the right person? Well, in today’s episode we I give you eight questions to ask yourself to tell if you’re dating the right guy:

1: Does He Make an Effort?

This gets overlooked because women naturally are the nurturers of our relationships. But does he put EFFORT into your relationship? Does he make time for you? Does he give thought and energy to planning date day or nights?

2: Does he keep his word?

Words are only words but does he back it up with action. Keeping your word builds trust in the relationship, yet we get so jaded by what someone says and overlook the actions they show.

3: Do you trust him? 

Yes, trust can get tricky because like I always say, to trust others, you have to be able to trust yourself first. But here’s the thing, we so often KNOW when something is right for us but disregard the intuition we have. Is this person trustworthy or not?… TELL THE TRUTH!

4: Does he respect you? 

Does he show respect to you and others?

5: Is the language of your relationship empowering?

How does he talk TO you and how does he talk ABOUT you? How do you talk TO him, and how do you talk ABOUT him when you’re out and about? The language in your relationship goes hand in hand with the RESPECT in your relationship.

“If there’s no respect, there will be no trust.”

6: Do you both want the same things?

We’ve seen so much time talking about values and standards in relationships, but how can this person be the right person if you have entirely different visions for life?

7: What’s the drama level in your relationship

Pull out your drama meter? On a scale of 1-10 (1, being little drama & 10, being drama fo’ yo’ mama) whats the drama level in your relationship? If you’re mostly working on your relationship instead of having a relationship, you’re with the wrong person.

“A lot of you are making it work with the wrong person, because you’ve created the illusion that they are the one.”

8: Do you feel free in this relationship or do you feel free around other people?

If you feel free around others and not the person you’re dating, you are with the wrong person!

How Do I Know if He’s the Right One for Me?
How to Increase Your Chances of Finding the Right Guy
How to Stop Attracting the Wrong Partner 
10 Signs He’s the Wrong Guy for You 
Christal Fuentes

about the author

Christal Fuentes

Christal is the Founder of The Ladies Coach. She lives and breathes her belief which is that you can’t find fulfillment in life without mastering the art of relationships.

Amna SAYS:

From the start of questions i realize that he is not ! And you’re totally right , we are making illusion to feel that he is the right person, i was making from his tiny efforts huge like he is atleast trying, but in fact he is not.
Thanks for your valuable articles dear,
Lots of love for you from dubai ❤️

    Christal Fuentes SAYS:

    So glad this could help love! And powerful insight. I honor your truth-telling. Never ever settle for basic efforts. <3

Camilla SAYS:

Yes he is very special guy and we are going to get married this November ???? “insh”

    Christal Fuentes SAYS:

    Congratulations Camilla! Wishing you a lifetime of love! XO

Bianca SAYS:

Currently listening to this at work and fighting back tears because of your truth bombs!
Hitting it right in the feels, today! I’ve known deep down that he’s not the right one for a long time now but hearing it so bluntly puts it into perspective. I’ve made excuses for his lack of effort, I’ve convinced myself that I trust him, I’ve compromised my own values and beliefs because I’ve convinced myself that it was all divine timing and that we were meant to be together. Thank you CHRISTAL!! You’ve made it so much clearer for me now x

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