Are you in a relationship with a good man and you wonder, after years of being together, when will he pop that question and put a ring on it so you can move on to your dream life? Hell…some of you might have been dating a guy for only a few months and still wondering when he’ll propose…

Here are 5 reasons why your man hasn’t put a ring on it yet

One of the reasons isn’t so pretty, but I do believe you can rest assure that even though your man hasn’t committed in the way YOU’D like him to yet, he may have been committing in the ways he “knows.”

1. You have been dreaming about your wedding for a lifetime. He just thought about it because you brought it up.

To my beautiful ladies, although you may have been thinking about walking down that aisle for most of your life, does not mean your man has… and that’s OK. It doesn’t make him love you any less but what I will say is men show their commitment in very different ways!

2. Commitment to you is Marriage. Commitment to him is providing security.

Like I said before, men show commitment in very different ways. While you may think commitment means marriage and a wedding (which is totally beautiful). Your man may feel his way of showing commitment is by providing security for you. The intention of most great men out there is to provide for the ones they love.

3. He feels too PRESSURED and not EMPOWERED enough to make the decision to put a ring on it himself.

This is something I see quite often in couples. When a man feels too pressured about when he will be popping the ultimate question, it takes him away from his masculine role. However, it doesn’t matter if we are talking Masculine or Feminine… no one wants to feel pressured when it comes down to a decision you ultimately want to make on your own right?

Multiply that by a million when we talk about masculine energy because men like to feel they can make the best decision for themselves and the ones they love on their own!

4. He may have a negative story or meaning around marriage

There might be a childhood experience that made him create a limiting belief about what marriage actually means. If so, these are conversations you will need to have as a couple, and if there are beliefs he just can’t get over, don’t get upset, always come from a place of understanding. Empathy builds trust, and when we are able to expand trust in our relationships, miracles happen! Trust eases fears and could make him feel better about marriage.

I am not saying put your dreams aside, but you must think about what’s more important and if the relationship you have is beautiful then I say open THAT up.

5. He’s just not that into you….

Now, ladies…  there are signs your man will show when he’s really not that into you and guess what?… As much as you would like me to go into the signs… You will know when this is the case. Marriage should not be the “end all be all” in my opinion, but like I said before, commitment is shown in many different ways and if he isn’t showing care, respect, love, deeds of service or making you feel good being around him, he just may not have the care that is required to have a healthy and sustainable relationship.

To end this…

Do I think marriage is beautiful? Yes! However, it is more beautiful to see two people who truly worship and value each other, and trust me, when you release the expectation of what commitment looks like, your man will always do whatever it takes to make you happy… even put a ring on it!