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8 Things to Think About Before Getting Married

by Christal Fuentes

To you, what is the ultimate indication of true love and commitment in a relationship? Seriously, what does it look like to you? How do you know when someone is completely committed to you? To most, marriage is the ultimate sign of commitment, but is it really? Probably not. Before I get people thinking I’m a hater of marriage, I want you to know that I’m not. I’m a lover of love, but as a relationship coach, I want to make sure I shine a light on what’s more important than getting married.

Like… the actual relationship! Why? Because marriage is only a commitment in the sense that you are signing a legal document, and like other legal documents, they certainly are a commitment right? But what makes that legal document have so much power over the sanctity of love? Let me say this very loud and proud…

It has zero, zilch, no fucking power over how much love is flowing in the relationship, and that is exactly where we get ourselves in trouble. We spend so much time believing a contract or even the wedding/ceremony is going to strengthen our relationship but we don’t realize the “business” behind marriage.

What? I said it! business. Marriage is a business and what’s crazy is there are more people more cautious of signing business contracts then a contract signing their life away with someone. I truly believe vowing to give your life to someone is the most beautiful act of love, but before we do this and legally sign a contract to the government, we have to be clear about the terms.

Today’s video is all about that. I give you 8 things to think about before getting married.

Why? Because we want relationships that last the test of times, not just feed our temporary emotions.

Happy TLC Thursday and make sure you COMMENT your insights below!

Christal Fuentes

about the author

Christal Fuentes

Christal is the Founder of The Ladies Coach. She lives and breathes her belief which is that you can’t find fulfillment in life without mastering the art of relationships.

Natalie SAYS:

Loved this! Thanks Christal.

    Christal Fuentes SAYS:

    So glad you liked it babe! XO

Andrea Pescetto SAYS:

Videos like this are necessary!

    Christal Fuentes SAYS:

    Thank you Andrea! <3

Jess SAYS:

Wow! Thank you for this amazing video!!
My partner constantly nags and asks why I’m not ready to get married. I feel like he wants that legal document to show him I’m committed, otherwise he threatens he will leave as he is wasting his time.
We are both very young, especially be being 4 years younger, I feel like we are not on the same page.
I love him and I want to work on the ‘business’ more than anything!
I’m going to watch this video with him again and hopefully he realises there is more to getting that legal document called marriage 🙂 x

    Christal Fuentes SAYS:

    I agree with you, commitment is felt in different ways and the relationship should always get the focus before any legal document does. Thank you for watching! All my love XOXO

Maddi SAYS:

Love this! Just spent 30mins talking to hubby to be about all of the points. He still thinks that the ‘wedding’ is such a visual representation of love and relationships. We definitely comfortably spoke about and already understood a lot of the points but there were 2/3 of them that sparked some more deeper thinking, learning, justification and communication.
Thankyou for this ❤️

    Christal Fuentes SAYS:

    That’s amazing Maddi! Ceremonies are BEAUTIFUL! I also love the idea of saying vows to the ones you love in front of family and friends. Nothing wrong with that! The only time it becomes a problem is when couples put too much emphasis on the wedding/marriage and puts their relationship second. As long as the “relationship” takes priority, marriage is a beautiful act! XOXO

Kate SAYS:

This is so great! My partner and I have spoken about marriage as to his family it is very important in their religion/culture. To us, it means a life commitment and we want to have that commitment before we decide to have children. Still many more conversations to be had and we are in no hurry at all to get married and are happy to just keep being us ????

Charlotte SAYS:

This video is great! I think everyone should see this before they get married.
I am getting married in 4 weeks!! I couldn’t be more excited, but watching this just confirmed that we are on the right track, and that we have had, and continue to have the conversations we need to keep our relationship at its best :).
Thank you for sharing, it really is so useful 🙂 x

Korin SAYS:

Loved this I have great role models in my life my parents just celebrated there 40th anniversary personally im a crazy gf and go through all this talk before even getting in a relationship ????
However neither of us really care to get married we dont really get it its a weird concept to us been together 4 years and I honestly love him way more then I did when we first met thanks to Tinder ????

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