Are you struggling in your relationship because of your jealous spouse? Do they make it difficult to be who you are?
No matter what you do, your intentions get questioned? But you love them so much and wonder if there is something you can do that could help ease their insecurity?
In this video, I am going to discuss some ways to expand the scope of this relationship, but I think it’s imperative to understand, you have absolutely, NO CONTROL over someone’s emotions. Nor, does it usually have anything to do with you. It may seem like it does because you partner sure as hell tries to make it about you, but it is THEIR responsibility to do the work, and it’s your job to dis-attach yourself from their projections. Believing it’s our job to make someone happy is the #1 cause of aggravation, not to mention, KILLS relationships because you live in expectation mode.
With that said I do believe as partners, we have some power to shift and expand this relationship. Like I said before, I’m all about expanding the scope which means to bring awareness to what we might be seeing.
At the end of the day, insecurity and jealousy are human emotions. EVERYONE experiences these emotions at one time or another and just because your partner is experiencing them, doesn’t mean your relationship is doomed.
HOWEVER.
And this is a big, however. Before you think you’re off the hook for being with an insecure spouse, you’re not.
In fact, there’s a big difference between being with someone who, all of the sudden, is experiencing jealousy, and someone who has ALWAYS shown signs of insecurity. Like, let’s get real with ourselves ladies. We know exactly what we were getting ourselves into. For you to act like this is a “new thing” knowing damn well the person you are with was cray cray from the get-go, has less to do with them, and more to do with YOU babe.
I know this sounds tough but GURRRL! We need to get real and tell the truth. Trust me; I say this from a place of love because I genuinely want you to have the relationships you deserve. Some of the most significant lessons came from my ability to get real, tell the truth, and see my participation in it all. That’s all I want you to do.
So if you realize that you might be in a relationship with a toxic person, STAY ON THIS SITE, because we have tons of resources for that. The real work has to do with you boo. So make sure you take the necessary steps to work that out for yourself.
Now that I got that out of the way, let’s get back to my ladies that know they are in a relationship with the right partner, but feel like something is making your partner insecure and it’s affecting you. Make sure you give this video a watch to see what you could be missing.
Alex SAYS:
I love how honest you are! I’ve been struggling with my current relationship because it’s always been a jealous relationship. I began working on myself and getting counseling for codependency and have grown so much from that. But, now my husband says he wants the old me back, says I’m too different, etc. I am trying to help us get to a healthy state but it seems like he doesn’t want to change even though he says he does. He is very insecure and is dependent on alcohol on a daily basis. He’s never physically hurt me but he can be very emotionally degrading. I’m scared because I know I’ve fallen out of love but I feel so guilty giving up. How do I know when to let go? When there’s no more hope? How do I know if it’s just me holding onto resentment for how he’s treated me or if I’m finally just standing up for myself. I get so confused because he promises things but his actions are totally different. I know deep down he truly cares and has a good heart but the cycle continues.