To you, what is the ultimate indication of true love and commitment in a relationship? Seriously, what does it look like to you? How do you know when someone is completely committed to you? To most, marriage is the ultimate sign of commitment, but is it really? Probably not. Before I get people thinking I’m a hater of marriage, I want you to know that I’m not. I’m a lover of love, but as a relationship coach, I want to make sure I shine a light on what’s more important than getting married.

Like… the actual relationship! Why? Because marriage is only a commitment in the sense that you are signing a legal document, and like other legal documents, they certainly are a commitment right? But what makes that legal document have so much power over the sanctity of love? Let me say this very loud and proud…

It has zero, zilch, no fucking power over how much love is flowing in the relationship, and that is exactly where we get ourselves in trouble. We spend so much time believing a contract or even the wedding/ceremony is going to strengthen our relationship but we don’t realize the “business” behind marriage.

What? I said it! business. Marriage is a business and what’s crazy is there are more people more cautious of signing business contracts then a contract signing their life away with someone. I truly believe vowing to give your life to someone is the most beautiful act of love, but before we do this and legally sign a contract to the government, we have to be clear about the terms.

Today’s video is all about that. I give you 8 things to think about before getting married.

Why? Because we want relationships that last the test of times, not just feed our temporary emotions.

Happy TLC Thursday and make sure you COMMENT your insights below!