6 Signs You Take Everything Personally

by Christal Fuentes

Oh, yeah, don’t act like you are the exception because, in today’s video, I am going to share 6 signs that you almost definitely take things personally. Why does this matter?
Well, if your happiness doesn’t matter then this probably won’t be a big deal to you but since I know happiness does matter to us… I mean… I did write a book about this very thing…
This subject is going to come handy because there are certain behaviors keeping us too attached to things that don’t serve us and we don’t even realize what these behaviors are. One of the signs I talk about in today’s video is about guilt. How many times have you felt guilty for something you had no control over? My guess would be a lot right?

Hell… I even have friends who have felt guilty when I, carelessly, stubbed my toe on a chair. They had nothing to do with that chair yet still felt responsible. Now, to most of us, we’d think, “she just cares.” But, how much is it caring and how much of it is actually making yourself more significant than you need to? #TRUTHBOMB #SorryNOTSorry! I actually did a video about guilt in the past that I think would be a perfect visit after today’s lesson. But guilt is just one of the behaviors we exhibit that makes everything personal. And when everything is personal, our self-worth is at stake.

Oh yes, taking things personally makes everything about us and when that happens, how we feel about ourselves is completely dependent on how others perceive us. I find this to be a bigger problem for most of my ladies because we think for a community, so naturally, we care more about how others feel, but again, how much of this is actually caring, and how much is it seeking approval, gratification or acknowledgment for what should be felt within?

That is the question I leave you with my dear and I want to see a discussion in the COMMENT section below!

Have a beautiful Thursday my darling!

Christal Fuentes

about the author

Christal Fuentes

Christal is the Founder of The Ladies Coach. She lives and breathes her belief which is that you can’t find fulfillment in life without mastering the art of relationships.

Laura Ormrod SAYS:

You have read my mind this week!!
I was out with my friend yesterday and said to her about a guy( a stranger) “why is he doing that that way?” and her reply was…”what difference does it make to you anyway?!”
It really hit me like why am I making a strangers business my business? Well this video explained it all!
Thank you!

    Christal Fuentes SAYS:

    Thank you so much for sharing. That’s so true. We must not get attached to the behaviors of others. XO

Kristy Petersen SAYS:

Once again another eye opener about myself haha.
Definitely 1 & 4 resonated with me.
Im a stay at home mum to my 4 now, but I always find myself justifying it when people ask what i do for a job… why cant i just answer Im a stay at home mum…instead i say oh Im a stay at home mum BUT previously was the assistant Manager at Escape Travel.
I ALWAYS feel guilty about things that are out of my control, or about how other peoples lives are etc.
So moving forward, I am going to try my hardest to say proudly I’m a stay at home Mum, because i do absolutely love it! And Ive already started trying to not feel guilty about things out of my control.
Ive pre ordered 3 of your books YAY! But I’m honestly thinking I need a couple more as I know I’m going to love it and want to share it with so many.
Thanks for another great article, I’m learning so much about myself.
Kristy xx

    Christal Fuentes SAYS:

    You are so amazing Kristy thank you! XO

cheri SAYS:

Why is it with every job people bully me and never give credit? Boy could I tell you so many stories from job after job. WHY ME?

    Christal Fuentes SAYS:

    Hi Cheri, why not you? … Really… ask that question instead because the fact that you ask “Why Me” makes everything about you and although some people might try to make it about you, YOU are in charge of how you feel and how much control you give others over your emotions. The more personal you make things the more leverage you give others, not to mention, the more you will FEEL others are attacking you. So my suggestion is to stop asking, “Why ME?” And start with a new question, like “How can I be the best version of me in this moment?” XO

      cheri SAYS:

      Thanks so much. I keep trying and one day I might just get it right.

Annika SAYS:

I absolutely needed this Christal! The biggest tip I’m taking away from the second video is make a decision and stick with it! I find mysef second guessing everything I choose, and the guilt really creeps in. That is great advice, and I can’t wait to bring out the wise woman in me. Thank you for all you do, it really has made a difference in my life. I LOVED “How to be H.O.T.” and the wisdom you shared. I have a few friends that I recommended it to and are reading it now!
xoxo, Annika

    Christal Fuentes SAYS:

    Thank you so much babe! I’m glad this video can help and THANK YOU for sharing the HOT book with your friends! All my love! <3

Katie O'Farrell SAYS:

‘The goal isn’t to be perfect, but to bring awareness to what is blocking our fulfilment and happiness in life’. I just love this quote Christal. X
It’s so easy to get caught up in the idea of a perfect life or being the perfect person and feeling guilty then when things aren’t going to plan or you feel you’re not doing a good enough job with your life. Which is RIDICULOUS, I know!!!
I could definitely relate to all 6 signs in some little way. Watching your video felt like pushing open the double windows onto a beautiful fresh summers day and taking a big gulp of fres air! I feel somewhat relieved to see that I can let go of a lot of those little things and expectations I’ve been carrying around with me unnecessarily. Ever-grateful to you and your work. Thank you x

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