Oh, yeah, don’t act like you are the exception because, in today’s video, I am going to share 6 signs that you almost definitely take things personally. Why does this matter?
Well, if your happiness doesn’t matter then this probably won’t be a big deal to you but since I know happiness does matter to us… I mean… I did write a book about this very thing…
When you take things personally, it makes everything about us and when that happens, how we feel about ourselves is completely dependent on how others perceive us. I find this to be a bigger problem for most of my ladies because we think for a community, so naturally, we care more about how others feel, but again, how much of this is actually caring, and how much is it seeking approval, gratification or acknowledgment for what should be felt within?
Here are 6 signs that you take things personally:
1. You are always trying to prove your self-worth to others
I was guilty of this when I quit my fulltime job and started coaching, I always felt people were judging me because of how young and “inexperienced” I was. That I would try to overcompensate my time and energy to change their minds and at the end of the day.
2. Judgment and Insecurity often creeps in
If you find yourself judging others for how they exist or live their lives, then you 100% without a doubt take everything personally. When I scroll through the comment sections on social media, I am saddened by the lack of fulfillment people have to feel, in order to comment hurtful things to others. No one is affecting your life that much to feel HATE at passionate levels. But it certainly would feel that way, if you made everything people do… about YOU!
3. You need immediate gratification and praise
If you constantly do things for praise, approval or attention, you unfortunately open yourself up to disappointment, because no one is going to make you feel as worthy as you deserve besides you.
4. You get too attached to what your friends and loved ones are doing
As much as we love our significant others, friends and families, they are their own people and we have absolutely no control, I repeat, NO CONTROL over them. As much as we want to help people and make them see things differently, we will cause ourselves unnecessary drama putting expectations on how they should live their lives.
5. You find yourself feeling GUILTY often
If you find yourself feeling guilty all the time, I encourage you to watch a past video we did so that guilt doesn’t dominate your life. But I will say, feeling GUILTY is tied with attachment to self. Guilt is ALL about taking things personally, especially if you feel guilty for things you couldn’t control. Because you make YOU bigger than uncontrollable or unforeseen circumstances and I’m, #sorrynotsorry, you’re NOT bigger than life…
6. You tend to look at what’s going wrong more than what’s going right
Do you find yourself being cynical about most things? Cynicism is actually an attachment to being right. I actually call it the “justice meter” in my book. A justice meter is all about finding what’s wrong and “making it right” but here’s the thing, we are not GOD and we cannot control people and to be overly obsessed with what people do that’s wrong is just not a healthy way to live and makes EVERYTHING PERSONAL. Sure there are times we need to protect ourselves but to look for the worse in any situation is not protecting you, it instead, eats away at your happiness.
Did you have any of these signs that you take things personally? Comment below! I will go ahead and raise my hand because at times, even as a teacher, I can find myself taking things personally but that is why this is a spiritual journey and the goal is to bring awareness to what’s blocking our fulfillment and happiness in life.