7 Signs of Attention Seeking Behavior - The Ladies Coach

7 Signs of Attention Seeking Behavior

by Christal Fuentes

At one time or another, we have all been guilty of attention-seeking behavior, and for some of us (not pointing any fingers) you are probably more guilty than most, but that’s okay girl! We still love you, but it’s important to get this behavior on lock because it’s leaving you feeling like you aren’t good enough as you are, where you are.

If you find yourself in one of these behaviors, it is not a time to feel bad. TRUST ME! When I say, we’ve all “been there, done that,” I truly mean it! But it is a time to reflect on what you are trying to get from it.

We all have reasons for everything we do and it all will shed light on what’s happening within.

What part of you is yearning to be seen, heard and understood and how can we start to receive attention internally instead of externally?

Doing things for the sake of attention does a disservice to your soul.

The more you seek anything, attention, peace, spirituality, love, happiness (you name it) the more you compromise your truth. You ultimately value the perception of Joe Schmo and Susie Q more than your own wants and desires. These people don’t even trust and like themselves, but you are seeking their approval?

In today’s video, I am going to give you 7 signs of attention seeking behavior:

1. Anxiety often creeps in

And you worry about IF something you do will be received well by others

2. You are more susceptible to feeling lonely

So you do things to draw connection: An example of this we see is oversharing on social media platforms

3. Insecurity often creeps in

Causing you to compare your worth to others.

4. You are too attached to praise

Attachment to praise makes criticism crippling.

5. You always feel you need to prove yourself

Whether it’s overly explaining yourself, using your blessings as leverage, or using your knowledge against people.

6. You do things for the APPLAUSE of it

The Likes, the Following or the recognition of it.

7. You try too hard to be unique

You already ARE unique no reason to go overboard trying to make others see it.

Do you or anyone you know have the signs of attention seeking behavior? Let me know if you’d like me to do a follow up to this article and discuss what we can do to stop attention seeking behavior.

In the mean time, be sure to visit this interview I did with Zen Rose Garden on Deep Rooted Issues. This interview get’s into the patterns and emotional triggers we aren’t typically conscious of.

Christal Fuentes

about the author

Christal Fuentes

Christal is the Founder of The Ladies Coach. She lives and breathes her belief which is that you can’t find fulfillment in life without mastering the art of relationships.

Kristy Petersen SAYS:

I was like ooh is this me??? But nope I don’t think it is anymore, I probably over share on Insta but I don’t do it for connection or recognition I just enjoy sharing posts. I used to do number 4&5 though. Number 4 used to really affect me in my jobs.
Kristy x

    Christal Fuentes SAYS:

    I definitely struggled with 4 in the past. Thank you for sharing Kristy! #MVP

Hannah SAYS:

Oh I love this Christal! A lot of ah-ha’s! Just what I needed. xx

    Christal Fuentes SAYS:

    So glad it could help babe! XO

Katie O'Farrell SAYS:

This is brilliant. Hard to believe the way certain things can connect to others without you even noticing. #4 is definitely one I can see affecting me in my work at present as it’s quite a critical industry I’m involved in. However, I would have always thought that my quietly seeking praise was as a result of a slight insecurity on my part but never as an attention seeking strategy. I can see now that it is no more than a ‘disservice to my soul’ and is no longer necessary. So thank you for awakening that realisation in me Christal. X

Marion Reid SAYS:

I definitely qualify for No. ..123$5. I am 65 and have always felt that I don’t matter to my loved ones. I believe that is why I am an attention getter. Thanks, Marion

Sheerin SAYS:

Hi how to stop being an attention seeker

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