How to Increase Intimacy in Your Relationship When Life Gets Busy

by Christal Fuentes

Let’s talk intimacy.

For my couples who have been in a long term relationship but feel intimacy is fading because life is getting in the way. Whether it’s work, finances, kids, routine or maybe there’s just a low sexual desire in the relationship. I am going to give you some very simple ways to increase intimacy in your relationship even though you feel life is crazy hectic.

Before we dive in I have a few questions:

What does intimacy look and feel like to you?

Is it physical, intellectual or more emotional?

When do you feel the most seen and heard from your significant other?

I think it’s important we expand this subject a bit more because intimacy is so much more than just physical. We tend to put more emphasis on the physical, specifically the sexual act, when there are so many ways we can embody intimacy.

Actually, there are so many ways to be physically intimate with your spouse that doesn’t include sex. Trust me, I want you to have tons of sex babe but I also don’t want you to discount the other forms of intimacy.

Believing there’s one road that leads to intimacy in connection will often times make you feel like you aren’t doing enough, or that your relationship is heading towards the rocks when really, intimacy is multi-faceted.

Types of intimacy:

Physical intimacy: kissing, hugging, hand holding, sex, touch

Emotional/psychological intimacy: sharing admiration and adoration, creating a relationship vision together, verbally expressing your love.

Intellectual intimacy: the sharing of thoughts, ideas, beliefs and interests

There are so many different types of intimacy and they are ALL necessary. Sure, there will be times where some facets of intimacy will change, but before freaking out and stressing that life is getting in the way, let’s discuss some very, VERY simple ways to increase intimacy.

We are literally going back to the basics here babe, because you know what, I like making things as simple as possible. Sometimes we like to over complicate things and when we do, we will fall into overwhelm which DESTROYS intimacy and connection in our relationships.

Yeah, the complete opposite of what we are trying to do, right?


But before we get into today’s video, I want to tell you why intimacy is so important.

What intimacy does for you:

Intimacy releases “feel good chemicals” – which counters stress.

Intimacy creates safety – intimacy helps both partners feel seen, heard and loved in the relationship.

Intimacy keeps attraction alive – the more you express interest in your partner the more connection you will feel. The more connection you feel, the less likely you will live from expectation and disappointment.

Appreciation keeps attraction alive, which only boosts intimacy even more.

Alright babe, I want to hear from you. What’s something your partner does that makes you feel so safe, loved and adored? COMMENT BELOW!


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Christal Fuentes

about the author

Christal Fuentes

Christal is the Founder of The Ladies Coach. She lives and breathes her belief which is that you can’t find fulfillment in life without mastering the art of relationships.

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Candyze Harris SAYS:

Yes, yes, and YES to this video! Just what I needed! I am at beginning of a new relationship and I am really digging this man. I am constantly in search of ways to help me be a better partner and also want to know that I have the tools to create a beautiful union with someone the healthy and right way. I am ready to use what I’ve learned in my past relationships to make this one the best! Thank you so much for always teaching us ladies how to love and cherish ourselves and our partners! I’m a forever fan😘🙏🏾❤️

    Christal Fuentes SAYS:

    Thank you so much for watching Candyze! We only get better through experience, I’m so happy these resources could help. Sending you so much love! xx

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