Being cheated on doesn’t feel good and might make it hard for you to trust in your next relationship. Even when you do move on and believe you are with a loving partner, there might still be a bit of anxiety and uncertainty about what their intentions might be.
Then this uncertainty and anxiety shows up in self-destructive ways which starts creating conflict in your new relationship. Your current spouse is frustrated because no matter what they do, they always feel they have to pay for the mistakes of your ex.
You then feel bad because you love your partner and don’t want them pay for your past but you don’t know how to let go of the hurt you felt.
It’s not always easy to heal but we have to figure it out because it could be costing you the relationship you hold so dear.
How to begin trusting again after being cheated on in the past:
In this video I discuss how to release yourself from your Ex’s mistake and how to begin to heal. The first thing I would suggest right now is to forgive yourself for the pain. At some level there might be some guilt you are experiencing for how much this is even affecting you.
IT’S OK BABE!
No reason to beat yourself up right now.
Stop feeling embarrassed that you gave yourself to someone and it didn’t work out. There’s no shame in loving someone. The real shame comes from NOT loving.
Every relationship gives you the opportunity to see who you are and what you give. If someone “betrays” the relationship it is not a reflection of you.
Sure there are always opportunities to expand cheating in relationships that are usually healthy, but if you are here, it sounds like you have moved on from an unhealthy relationship and are now looking to heal.
As I said before, truly healing from infidelity will take some time but here are some things I’d suggest you think about first:
Do you know what your standards are for your relationship?
Do you know what you even value?
Is there a way you can start fresh and give to this relationship fully?
What things do you APPRECIATE in your relationship?
How can you change the meaning of his infidelity into something empowering?
“The relationship you have with yourself sets the foundation for the relationships you have with others.”
It’s the truth. Who you are and how you feel about yourself reflects upon the relationships around you. There’s no reason to be swallowing the same painful pill over and over again of what others have done to you. You are worthy of true love, now and always.
But are you showing up for it? Or you still drowning in self-pity. We’ve all hosted a pity party before, so you’re not alone, but pity parties are not fun for anyone but the host… Especially NOT FUN for our significant others.
Are you ready to learn how to trust again so you can open up the relationship you are in and feel the all the love you deserve?
After this video, make sure you take advantage of the comment section, that is where I will be around should you have any questions!